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Suave.  My paternal grandma's favourite.

Love your assertiveness Hollyboll….

I've learned the very hard way, with nobody to advocate for me and let down very badly by doctors who were supposed to look after me.  Lack of trust / terror / self-protection may occasionally appear as assertive.

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He’s off on

Thank you CLKD  I have . No period pain today & slight yellowish discharge back . Going to go with it as feel ok & think it’s all to do with the change . Im obviously in the throws of something with the boob pain & teenage spots 🫣

Love your assertiveness Hollyboll….

Just wanted to add that my female GP who I assumed would be understanding was v quick to counsel me against HRT and as a result I suffered longer than needed. I did get started eventually but a few months ago her male colleague was covering for her one day and since speaking with him I’ve never looked back….

Re: the physical exam, it really is a personal preference but I’d personally prioritise experience over gender…

Hi - I agree with what others have said:

1. If you're really not comfortable, you have the right to see anyone who will make you less uncomfortable. 
2. Having been made very ill indeed by a famous female GP meno 'specialist' I have been very lucky to end up with a leading meno consultant who happens to be male.  He is at least as comfortable/empathetic and a billion times more knowledgeable and has taken more & better care of me than any doctor (of any gender) I've ever seen.   I'd go for expertise/approach over gender every time, but that's just me.
3. On reflection it is a sad truism (and indictment) of the system that there are probably fewer at the most-experienced consultants around, particularly perhaps in the NHS, who are female - but that's a philosophical/bigger conversation for another day!  There probably is at least one junior woman in his team.
4. You have the right to ask to see a female doctor if you prefer.  If you can get through on the phone, you're doing better than I've ever managed and personally I'd expect if you did you'd probably get some outsourced /offsite admin who a) wouldn't know and b) might move your appointment back further.  If it were me, I'd go on the day and tell them when you arrived you want to see a female doctor.  Clinics don't often tell you this but apparently you have the right to ask to see a consultant when you arrive - just expect them to make you wait and don't complain about the time - so I don't see it'd be any different.

When I went for a scan a few months ago, when I was finally called by a young guy, I said (as I had when arrived) 'No disrespect but I'd like to see' and he interrupted me to say 'a woman' - clearly because so many people did say that.  I said no, a consultant (who in that particular clinic head consultant was a man and I named him).  He almost fell off his stool because he is clearly so used to people asking for a female / female consultant, but I'd been told he was the best and that's what matters most to me.  That was for an internal procedure, but I'm sure you're not the first to ask at this clinic.  Just be prepared to wait, don't make a fuss about time - and I'd probably arrive a bit early and make clear you're happy to wait as long as it takes as they are flexing for you.

Good luck!
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Hi i finally gave in and had a mirena coil fitted 8 days ago so I'm using 2 pumps of oestrogel as well, the last 2 days my breasts are really sore, I thought sore breasts are usually through to much estrogen but could it be the progrestone that's causing this as I feel as if I need to add more estrogen as my joints are really painful and also I had no info given to me after coil was fitted about checking the strings so had a read up and it states to check regular especially for the first 3 months I'm stressing like hell now as I've been checking the last 3 days and I def can't feel the stings of the coil have I got anyrhing to worry about I feel stupid ringing gp so soon after having it done any thoughts please

Thanks for the welcome Northerngirl. Oh I know. Never really given it much thought until all this weird stuff started happening a few years ago, and new things happen all the time. I’m glad I’ve somewhere to come to for advice. I do have a really great GP. She’s in her late 30’s and really knowledgeable, but she does like to push HRT, and it’s not for everyone is it?

Hannahlou,  welcome to  MM. 
Yes I'd say this is all very normal.

There are so many symptoms aren't there....I didn't realise how many there were at the start and I don't think we realise just how much hormones are responsible for within our whole body ....both physical and mentally until they're gone/fluctuating.
You've definitely come to the right forum for any help and advice you may need as these ladies are very knowledgeable...I've learned more from them than any GP.

I find the older I get the more my music tastes are going back in time. I’ve discovered Boom radio and love all the old stuff.

I give you Johnny Mathis - I’m Stone In Love With You because my mam loved him 😊