Oh Annie, that must have been so difficult and traumatic. Not to be treated appropriately and not to have support. It takes time to recover emotionally as well as physically doesn't it?
I was ill for a while beforehand, but tried to keep going. When I had a chest infection 3 years ago, I knew I was ill. I did it dramatically by being sent to hospital by ambulance and spent 24 hours in the high dependency ward, followed by 24 hours in a side ward. This time took longer, but less dramatic. Well it started with a 31/2 hour wait in A&E. so I thought I wasn't that ill as I wasn't being looked after. It was the doctor who discharged me who said I had been very ill and this GP! I now feel a bit shocked, but I'm now in the right frame of mind to recover and not to worry. All it takes is being told! I did get ABs intravenously, etc. And I do have a good support network.
I hope life has treated you better since and that you have been able to enjoy your family. And you deserve to be treated with loving kindness, which sadly your ex was unable to do. That was about him not you.