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[Justjules]

I've managed to get one for next Thursday.....I've only made an appointment and I'm already panicking it's some nasty disease or my heart....I'll be in a right state for a week but I'm sick of being like this. X

CLKD, sorry to hear about your loss, funerals are never easy.

[CLKD]

Thanks.  If necessary I simply won't go inside, no one will miss me.

[Taz2]

Thanks.  If necessary I simply won't go inside, no one will miss me.

Sorry to hear about the funeral but if  thats the case then I would have thought it would have been easier for you to stay at home rather than put yourself through it? If you were not close enough to the deceased for people to even notice if you are there or not then I would say let your husband go alone. Life is too short to put ourselves through unnecessary stress.

Taz x 

[CLKD]

We never do stuff separately ………. if it's fine I can sit in the grave yard whilst the Service takes place

[Taz2]

Oh right. Sorry. I just thought that it saves having to put yourself through it if it's not necessary for you to be there. I'm sure Himself would understand unless he is unable to do it alone then, of course, it makes sense that you to have to go to. Some of the graveyard's are very pretty. Take a book and find a nice tree to sit under.

Taz x 

[CLKD]

Trouble is Taz, I can get myself into a right 'state' weeks B4 an event, then find I'm fine 'on the day'; bugga - which tends to spoil any lead up to anything we do ………..  and I don't take the emergency tablet unless anxiety over-takes me.  Himself will cope.  He's so laid back etc. etc..  His brother/wife will probably be there so I don't worry about that side of things.

Graveyards I love ;-).  Sods Law it will rain 

[Taz2]

I do know how you feel CLKD - happens to me too. I'm ok as long as I have a back up plan if I do feel too bad on the day to actually do something.

Taz x

[CLKD]

Yep.

[babyjane]

Anxiety has robbed me of enough.   I am not going to let it take any more if I can help it.

I have made a conscious decision to go to our friend's funeral tomorrow and I am not entertaining any other choice.  However I will decline the wake if we are invited back but hubby will go.  She was his colleague and all his old colleagues will be there so he should go.

[CLKD]

Let us know how you get on!

[Taz2]

It's strange how anxiety affects us all differently. I would find the church/crematorium part the most difficult as you are just sitting there but the Wake would be fine because you can move around and nobody would notice if you had to go off outside, say, for a while.

Taz x

[CLKD]

Likewise - I can't be shut in …… it was always difficult but in the 1990s became impossible 

[Spangles]

Well ladies, I managed the family occasion and my trip to Venice. I arrived home yesterday and felt relieved. CLKD I also get myself into a state for weeks leading up to an event, to the point where I feel I'm going to have a breakdown! Deep down I know I'll be ok but it doesn't stop the anxiety and worry beforehand.
It's another place of the bucket list and I don't have to think about going away again for a good while.
xXx

[babyjane]

I would feel far more 'shut in' in a pub or room full of people that I ever would in the orderliness of the funeral service.

[Cazikins]

But a funeral service is more official & emotional than a room full of people or a pub, maybe that is what CLKD means