Hello ladies.
I don't often post about our woes with MIL but recently the strain has been enormous.
She is eighty nine and been in and out of hospital due to falls. She has been in every kind of care facility you can think of, residential homes she didn't like, rehab wards in two different hospitals ( rehab didn't work ) and latterly sheltered housing which is where she had her last fall and is clearly unsuitable. At the moment she is back in hospital and we are waiting to hear what is suggested next. She has mainly been living at home with the support of various equipment, four carers a day plus frequent visits from family members but we think full time nursing care is the only option left and the establishment in her town doesn't have any vacancies. She doesn't have dementia as such but has regressed to babyhood in terms of her physical needs. It's all very sad and she says she wants to die and who can blame her? She has many serious health problems and takes over twenty pills a day. When her heart failure worsened eighteen months ago we thought the hospital would introduce palliative care, keep her comfortable and pain free and let nature take it's course, instead they gave her a pace maker and sent her home. The cardiologist said it would do wonders for her health and we wouldn't recognise her. Apart from a little less swelling in her legs we haven't noticed much difference and her general deterioration has continued.
Sorry to go on ladies but my anxiety is sky high today and I needed to offload.
Take care all and hugs to all those in the same boat!
K.