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[rantywoman]

That's so true.
It's just that when I see what some women cope with I feel bad for stressing over something and nothing. Ah well, I have a bottle of wine chilling in the fridge for tonight....that's my valium haha!

[honeybun]

My late step father was the biggest hypochondriac I have ever known. It was a wonder to see. He lived till 91 but I think most of his adult life was spent in imagining illness and having mostly unnecessary procedures done.
He had his tonsils out....he employed a doctor to come and do it at his house. He also had his four sons done at the same time. One of them never really forgave him for the trauma that caused him.

He did have TB as a young man and spent most of the war years in a sanatorium.

He eventually did have something wrong. Bowel cancer, in his late eighties which he survived. He went on to live a good few years after and that wasn't what killed him. Old age did that.

I am so determined that I'm just not going to be like that.

You have to live for the day because life slips past too bl**dy quickly. Even if it's a really bad day a little positive can be found.


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[Machair]

Honeybun you are so right.  Life is just to short. This month my cat had a blocked bladder for the third time, dog has had ear infection, 2 burst ear drums and surgery. Mum was rushed into hospital again yesterday so spent all day in A and E with her - even assisting with her catheter being fitted. On top of this, and most important, my daughter has a thyroid lump that is indeterminate, which means it can't be cleared for malignancy without a hemithyroidectomy and she is 26. All of this is sending me into a nervous state and menopause symptoms are even more worrying than they would normally be.
Women have a bucket load of responsibility already, and adding into the mix wonky hormones is dreadful. No wonder we are all panic ridden.
I find spending time in nature is the best cure. Sit by a river, flower garden or go to the beach. Escape technology for a bit and leave the phone at home. Failing that a Nashville box set works for me.

[LellyM]

I can sympathise - I spent half an hour talking to my GP last week trying to explain that I was anxious and worrying yet had NOTHING to worry about. He suggested that each time I feel myself getting tense I try to distract myself with something nice. That is OK but I am running out of nice things! 

he did say going for a walk often helps because you reconnect with the world and breathe fresh air.

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[BrightLight]

Worry is worry though and it's very hard when it runs amok - today I started saying to myself 'don't worry about your worry' - deep down I think I know a genuine concern that needs attention and one that doesn't really. 

Life really is short, but even that doesn't seem to kick me into non worry at times - I have a friend, younger than me at 34 with two children under 8.  She has metastatic breast cancer, diagnosed 4 months ago after being given the all clear only a month before.  She is now living deliberately, making memories, hoping treatment will prolong time with her family.  That gives me perspective, but still, everything is relative to us as individuals.

Warm wishes to anyone feeling anxious or worried today x

[CLKD]

Because people appear to be 'coping' doesn't mean that they are! 

I had something happen in the night and thought of this thread - of course I can't remember what happened    - should I worry about not remembering?

[Nefersmum]

One thing I can say confidently having read everyone's responses to this thread is that there is an overwhelming volume of good 'ole fashioned common sense out there in womankind.   I'm hoping that will get me through when times are tough.   

My old Nan always used to say 'don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you' and I do try and remember that (not always to good effect) but I am going to make that my new motto.  My old motto was 'if you must have one make it a big 'un' and I could always think of a number of circumstances where that would be useful to remember.   

I'm  trying to find things to occupy my mind other than my own minor troubles but so far not being massively successul.   It has to be a work in progress I suppose. 

[Tina62]

Sorry to say this but reading this as eased me massively !!

My anxiety is crazy i cant stand it i think the worst scenario out of the smallest silly thing...

I never realised it could be this bad.

I would love to know if anyone as taken anything to help ease this...the more natural the better because i cant take HRT.

Also i think oh i am going to faint my heads gone funny ! is that part of anxiety too ??

[honeybun]

Oh yes the faint feelings were a big part of anxiety for me. Horrible.

Have you tried St Johns Wort for anxiety. You need to check to make sure you can take it with any other medication that you are on but it's good for mild anxiety.
B vitamins are good too.

If you have a look around old posts by searching for key words you will see how often anxiety is discussed here.
It's a very big problem for a lot of us.

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[rantywoman]

Yes, the fuzzy, woozy head and feeling like you're off balance or going to fall over is all part of it.I suppose in a way, knowing that so many symptoms are actually down to anxiety can help  a little. It's the being scared initially that something could be seriously wrong that  feeds the anxiety.

Machair, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter, that must have you worrying so much. Please let us know how she goes on and I hope all turns out ok.

I do think having to wear so many *hats* at this time in our lives doesn't help the anxiety situation. We're constantly juggling so many demands and have little time to mentally relax.

[Nefersmum]

I do try distraction when worrying becomes a nuisance with variable success.    I am a crafter by nature - cross stitch is my poison - and focussing on that can help.   I have found that it seems more intense about the time I would normally expect my period.   That never arrives these days but a whole lot of fretting about absolutely nothing comes in it's place.