Silverlady - that is sad. How about copying and pasting into a new thread?
I cannot understand how married women do NOT PUT their husbands/partners FIRST
I married my husband, NOT his family. He married me, NOT mine. We come 1st with each other. Late M in L told me before I married him that she always called her husband by his Christian name, because has her husband - he was never "Dad" but always ..... ........ the boys of course called them Mum and Dad. She sat down at 9.00 p.m. after chores and caring each day and if they wanted anything they had to get it themselves. Because she wanted time with her husband after working all day. "He will be here once the boys have left and I don't want us to be strangers to each other".
She didn't want to go into a 'home' situation but push came to shove and she had no choice. Same when my Dad grew older, infirm and Mum was unable to lift.
We were going Down Under when we 1st married, but DH got a good job in the UK so it wasn't a necessary step. Had we gone, had we stayed, then 'they' would have to get on with 'it'. Would you chase around the UK to please others if it put your marriage at risk? but as re my post of earlier this week, it is not something we are prepared to do. They don't chase around for us!!!!
Your husband GH is probably inwardly fuming and suddenly it has erupted. Parents know when to push buttons and he can probably, like my DH, can see an issue waiting to happen
. Why not go out to a Pub away from the area, have a good listen to what he has to say. After all, he may drop dead tomorrow and how would you feel then?
"Let no man put asunder" ...........
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