Yes it is often those around who can see what is happening. The person suffering often can't see the wood for the trees. I have a friend who was doing so well and has recently married a lovely man, but is now is going downhill due to circumstances at work not of her own making. She no longer has to work and could take early retirement, though with a smaller pension. She is so talented that after a period of recovery, she could find alternative work. She has already been approached to do work that she would love to do. She doesn't know why, but she can't give up this job. We fear her body will give up before she does ( she has physical problems as well), so the recovery will be much harder. I don't know how to support her other than love her through it and support her husband as he hangs in there.