I have spent many years sulking when he hurts my feelings. But I have changed and now I tell him its not on. He gets upset. I hope he has learnt (but don't really believe it), then he does it again. We've been together since 1969. He wasnt like it then, its evolved over the years, as have I. To give an insight, he constantly tells me he loves me and how gorgeous I am. he always wants cuddles. he just likes being the funny man in front of other people. it's like he loses his head. I wonder if I should shrug it off, but there is a thread of him treating me like I am a bit simple even when we are alone, and when I pull him up on it, he says "I cant even have a discussion with you", no he can't if he's going to tell me things he should know I know, talking to me in words of one syllable, often actually repeating things I have just told him!!
It's massively difficult to explain how things 'work' in a relationship. All I know is that at my age, hormonal level (or whatever) I have a short fuse, a bad temper, I now clench my jaws to the point of making my front teeth ache, -and that's been going on for a year. I adore the bloke. He's a kind, soft, intelligent man who is totally un-sensitive and you can't be subtle with him, he just doesn't take hints. In fact he doesn't take something stronger than a hint. But if I really lay it on the line, he gets upset, puffs and blows and then I feel bad because he's upset (not that he knows I feel bad), it would be amusing it if wasn't so exasperating. He's like a big gallumpy waggy dog. Bit he does like to get his own way. he does it in a non confrontational way and plenty of 'kissy-kissy".
If I grin and bear his 'comedy' when we are out, I look like a prat (a doormat). if I get angry, I look like a cow. I honestly don't know how people view the entertainment. Even talking about it opens it up for misinterpretations. its just a rotten. I feel we are like a two piece jig saw mostly, but I can also see that my piece of the jig saw is sort of wanting to kick the other piece of jig saw away.
I dont suppose this makes sense.