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[CLKD]

Anxiety about issues won't help either 

[SadLynda]

Appointment was scary, Mum's heart rate is way too fast.  Saw senior heart doctor, prescribed 2 lots of pills to slow down heartrate, fitted with heart monitor for 24 hours, eco scan next week, bloods done and specialist appointment to be sent asap.  That was Thursday.  Today, Mum very sick pills been stopped, GP visit first thing Monday - she refused GP on call and no way will go to hospital, though she did phone them for advice.  We are not leaving her alone at anytime, I sat twice today while she slept its not really looking that good.  My poor Dad is in a terrible state.  Going to be a long weekend.

[CLKD]

She is in control then? if she phoned the Hospital.  What advice did they give, did she tell you?  It's worse watching time can drag until Monday. 

[SadLynda]

Thanks CKLD.  They told her not to take pills next day unless she felt better, so she did and took pills.  Phone call from dad last night to go round and pick her up off the floor as he couldnt, she had fallen on last stair and landed behind front door banging her head on it, would she go to hospital? no way.  Taking her to GP this morning.

[Ju Ju]

If your Mum is anything like my Mum, when ill she doesn't think rationally. She has refused medical intervention, once when she had a stroke. Dad's normally happy for her to be the 'boss' and finds it very hard to override her wishes. Dad will ring me if worried for support, or when she had had the stroke, I rushed there and threatened to ring for an ambulance if he didn't. When better, Mum admitted that she wasn't 'in her right mind'. It's hard to be firm with someone who is determined to be in control, and to parent your own parent, but I've had to learn. Let us know you and your Mum get on at the doctors.

[CLKD]

Let us know.  Also, if you ring Paramedics they will give advice, they don't force a patient into Hospital.  When my Dad was stuck in t he bath they were really good, giving Mum advice on the 'phone; i.e. run out the water, wrap him in warm towels and blankets.  They got him into bed and made sure he was warm enough B4 leaving them for the night.  Sometimes they have to be over ridden!

[SadLynda]

If your Mum is anything like my Mum, when ill she doesn't think rationally. She has refused medical intervention, once when she had a stroke. Dad's normally happy for her to be the 'boss' and finds it very hard to override her wishes. Dad will ring me if worried for support, or when she had had the stroke, I rushed there and threatened to ring for an ambulance if he didn't. When better, Mum admitted that she wasn't 'in her right mind'. It's hard to be firm with someone who is determined to be in control, and to parent your own parent, but I've had to learn. Let us know you and your Mum get on at the doctors.

Thanks Ju Ju and CKLD.  No, Mum says this all the time, our hospital is so awful I can see her point she really would rather die than go in there.  I did make her go after her first stroke which was many years ago, and she has been in once since.. think that might have been the second one and that is why she wont go.  Thanks CLKD for telling me about paramedics I will pass that on.  Sorry not updated sooner but been a week of appointments, care, shopping etc.  The pills did lower her heart rate, that showed on the echo scan the other day so that was good news, yesterday brought not so good news though as now they suspect kidney failure too so had an emergancy blood test today (at hospital again), and two lots of pills stopped till further notice.  Bank holiday is not a great time for us as GP not there now till Tuesday, he has suddenly got very worried and made a few phone calls yesterday too to confirm he was doing the right thing.  Aside from the headaches from the new medication and pain from fall she seems okay for now.  Forms went in this week for attendance allowance too.

[CLKD]

Sometimes medication can produce problems too!  Often patients are on 'too much'  .  Good of your GP to ring for confirmation.  A&E and on-call GPs are available 24/7 (always have been, despite the Government's current stance; it's that they will no longer pay 'over-time' for 24/7 working  ) so even if your Mum won't ring for advice, nowt to stop you doing so quietly if worried ;-).

R U OK?

[Ju Ju]

We intend to keep my Mum out of hospital if at all possible unless new symptoms occur and we don't know what we're dealing with. It has to be a judgement call, taking into account everyone else and circumstances. In my Mums case that would be whether my Dad can cope. They did call the paramedics to assist in getting my Mum off the floor and back into bed, but as it was not considered an emergency, they had to wait a long time. Now my Dad knows what to expect, he is able to pre-empt falls and will hold her on the commode for instance.  At the moment, my Mum is ok and has quality of life. Fingers crossed that she is well enough to get here on Monday for our celebration dinner.

[CLKD]

It really is half a day at a time! 

I have details of step-in baths/showers but dare I send it to Mum or will I get the 'stop trying to organise me', 'I can manage' etc. 

[CLKD]

Of course you are sad.  But how is your Mum?  Safe?

[Pennyfarthing]

I am amazed at how much my Mum sleeps these days. She went to bed at 9.45 last night and I took her tea in at 7.30 and she was sleeping yet she assured me she had been awake since 6. 😆😆

We had breakfast etc and she's been asleep sitting on sofa from 9.45 to 10.45.  When we get back from our lunch outing I know she will have a couple of hours in bed this afternoon. 

[CLKD]

I think they begin to lack energy.  My elderly pets slept a lot more.  Mum swears that she's spent lots of time in the garden ……. but I know she sleeps most of the evening away.

Do you feel better this morning StellaJane?

[CLKD]

…… her Life isn't as you remember nor what you wanted but if your Mum is safe, cared for, warm, fed …….. it allows you breathing space to do stuff as well as visiting?

 

[Cazikins]

…… her Life isn't as you remember nor what you wanted but if your Mum is safe, cared for, warm, fed …….. it allows you breathing space to do stuff as well as visiting?

 

Wise words CLKD

My Mum was in an EMI nursing home Stellajane, & it is a hard place to visit-  but it is the best place for her to be. She is safe & as happy as she can be at this time in her life.
Sending you hugs