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[Sunriser]

Sorry in advance but I have no one to talk to and am posting to a bunch of strangers on the internet in the hope that someone will understand.
Been diagnosed with acid reflux but think it's hiatus hernia. Realising how stressed I am.
Have chronic fatigue from a tropical disease, for 10 years. Can't shake off stress with exercise.
This year has been a nightmare.
I used to get domiciliary care at home due to disability and one of the carers attacked me last November.
I complained, also to the police. For some reason the few friends IRL that I had left treated me like I had become toxic and dumped me. I still don't understand.
Then since Feb I have had super stress with my bank and also had to get a solicitor. He has since lied about me and I have taken him to a complaints committee. I don't hold much hope. My word against his, etc.
Now I have been migrated to Universal Credit and that has been a complete shambles from start to finish, Would have been easier to go into the office and process my own claim, Useless and clueless staff and you have to phone 5 times to get one person who knows what they are doing.
Am fed up being treated like an afterthought in society. I try to help myself but nothing is helping me to feel any better about my life, I had a free menopause consultation in March with a nurse specialist who suggested I come off HRT as I don't need it any more. I'm 55. I realised I was disappearing into a void so am back on it last week.
If I didn't have my (grown up) kids I don't think I would be here. Life is too hard.

[CLKD]

Life can be hard.  Did your Nurse really think that you no "longer" require HRT?

We don't need to stop regimes ........ that's old fashioned thinking.

The Centre for Tropical Diseases may be the way to go with the on-going symptoms of tropical disease.  My FinL was a prisoner in Burma and contracted a critter, he went to Hospital in 1979 where a lot of tests were carried out and treatment given.  Job done! 

Friends have their own problems and tend to fade away, it's happened 2 me 12 months ago: A buddy disappeared from our Life, she moved without telling us where to.   . Knowing that we all shared trauma allows me to 'let her go' as it may B that she needs a fresh beginning as we are a constant reminder.

Which menopause symptom would you like to ease 1st and R U able to share what you were using previously?

MayB it's time to bring your children on board to advocate for you, also AgeUK have trained mediators so that could be an approach to consider.

[jaypo]

Firstly,no need to apologise for anything and secondly,we may be strangers to you but could become good friends,just because we don’t meet face to face,doesn’t mean we can’t rely on each other. I joined the forum many years ago and have made firm friends with a few people,clkd being one of them,who is always there to listen and give good advice,so stay with us and I’m sure we can help.

Life IS difficult and way more so when you have a disability, you are probably an inspiration to some without even knowing it.

I hope that carer was struck off?

I’m guessing your reflux has started because you came off hrt,when you really should NOT have been told to. Reflux is one of the many delightful symptoms of menopause, I suffer from it too but it can be managed,be careful of what up you eat, I can’t so much as look at tomatoes or pastry,also had to go gf because of gut issues.

Stay strong,always someone here to help 

[CLKD]

Many medics aren't aware that as oestrogen levels drop, muscles may be lax = aches and pains or dryness of the body.  Reflux is a common problem, my GP prescribed omeprazalol which works well, with the occasional spoonful of milk of magnesia when required.

Having health problems can make people isolated, due to lack of support or the effort of getting out and about .........