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[sheila99]

I'm another with no useful advice but lots of sympathy  . I know it doesn't replace work but would a couple of hours of charity work give you something else to focus on? Take care and I hope things get better for you.

[Nas]

Hair coming out in clumps 😭
Never did I think I would have to face this trauma again! Once was bad enough. Twice.. well I must have done something bad in a former life!

[SundayGirl]

It sounds drastic but have you thought about getting the hair clippers out and taking it all off?
A friend did this and she said it helped her by making her feel in control of one aspect rather than having it forced on her.

[Nas]

It sounds drastic but have you thought about getting the hair clippers out and taking it all off?
A friend did this and she said it helped her by making her feel in control of one aspect rather than having it forced on her.

Yes, I’m going to do this. It’s one thing I can do to take back some control.

[SundayGirl]

Look after yourself and put yourself first for a change. 

[suzysunday]

Take care nas.  X

[Northerngirl]

Hair coming out in clumps 😭
Never did I think I would have to face this trauma again! Once was bad enough. Twice.. well I must have done something bad in a former life!

Please don't say that Nas....you've not done anything bad in a former life or this life.
I'm sorry you are going through this again but please don't blame yourself.
We are all here for you anytime you want to offload all those emotions.
Get those clippers out girl !!!!!

[CrispyChick]

Awww Nas xxx   

I'm sure you'll rock your new clippered (is that even a word?) look.

It must be so damn awful. Hugs 

[Summer-sky]

Lovely Nas,
Such testing stormy seas you are still having to navigate.  It’s so tough to even hear the diagnosis let alone find the resources and energy to face the endless testing and prodding and scans, interventions and treatment and a second time around.  Then to face the internal questioning ‘why has it happened?’ I'm saying that in relation to your past life message:) For what it's worth, i think give up on the why’s if you have them, when you can:) it can be an endless road of questioning with cancer as in most cases nobody fully really knows.

It’s hard to feel like you are losing your identity but Nas is still in there. Even when the outside things that anchor have to be put to one side for a bit.  I only know a fraction of you from the forum and messages but that in itself is enough for me to know that you are a great spirit.
 Keep hold of that in the mire of it and do as you do and keep pushing forward when you can.  There will be brighter days although at times it must feel like that’s an impossibility, but there will be. It's wonderfully good natured to say you are only just 'bloody fed up' with all that you are going through  Sending lots of love to you. xx

[jillydoll]

Thinking of you Nas, I know how awful the chemo is after watching my OH last year go through it.

Try and stay strong, we’re all with you in spirit. 

xx

[Nas]

Thanks all 
Headshave tomorrow 
Mentally exhausted just thinking of it, but needs must.

Chemo 2 on Wednesday.

Summer.. No more questions starting “ why” as there is no answer I understand. The sea is stormy and I’m feeling sea sick. Is there a God? Will I make it? No idea. Pray God they find a vein and pray God there are some jam doughnuts left for me and some greedy consultant doesn’t take the last bag!


 xxxx

[suzysunday]

Hi again.   I know you have helped many on this forum and the kindness and wisdom you have shown to me in our messages,  has helped me through so much.   And as you say,  all the why questions can never be answered.  It must be a tough call to go through the head shave, loads of courage needed.   There seems to be no rhyme or reason to this life sometimes , but I hope you can find yet more of that inner strength that will get you through again,  and life WILL be good again.   Xxx

[Nas]

Thank you suzy.. you are very kind. Here we go again eh? X

[fiftyplus]

Awww Nas  , I am so sorry to hear you are having to deal with all of this s**t again.  Whilst you are not working take good care of and look after YOU for once and try not to worry about anything else.  Stay strong and don't give up hope even on your darkest days, you will beat this s**t again Nas.  A lady I know who is also going through chemo got a voucher from the nhs for a wig, is that something you might consider or enquire about, honestly, I bumped in to her last week and her hair was lovely, looked perfect actually and looked like as if she had just had it done and that's when she told me about it, that nhs had gave her a voucher and her own hairdresser had cut the wig in to a lovely style which was very similar to what she had before and I think she may also have had a few highlights through it, it certainly looked like she had, she also said that other people had commented on how lovely it was as well.  Stay strong Mrs and take good care of and look after yourself.  I am sending some positive thoughts and big hugs your way and lots of love, you can do this again, you really can, we are all behind you xxx 

[Mary G]

Nas, I'm so sorry to hear you are having a difficult time.  The hair loss must be traumatic but the important thing is, it will grow back.  I would definitely go for a wig because I think it will make you feel more you and give you confidence.  Wigs are so good these days it's impossible to know who is wearing one and who isn't.

Wishing you the very best and please keep us updated.