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[gm_thomson]

thank you so much everyone. I am feeling a bit better today (almost normal so far) and a bit part of that I am sure is to do with you. I must admit though, nighttimes seem to be the worst, I guess when I am not working my brain wanders or something. And i am scared its going to happen again...

[CLKD]

I had nightmares for years  .  Now my dreams are busy, involved, long - brain picks up a News item, runs with it until if finds someone from my past from years++++ ago; last night I was feeding chickens, geese, found horses in a living room ........... they all needed water  .  I'm knackered this morning 

[Suzysheep]

Gm… you are not alone. I’m falling apart too!
This site has been a saving grace for me. Keep reaching out. We all understand xxx

[gm_thomson]

Thanks for your kind words. Yesterday was a good one and I actually slept quite well. Today not as much, i got very angry for no reason when i was making lunch and then a few hours later had racing heart pounding in my chest. Now I am unexplainablly teary.  Although this is still better than when I did the first post above.

Are you guys all in the UK? I am originally from Scotland but live in Canada now. Found this site on google and it seems great although seems to get quiet at night, guessing when you are all in bed!

[Michelle7474]

Yes I’m in U.K. Gm

Glad you had a good day yesturday
Hope today gets better for you
It’s just so much to have this on and off day in day .. never the same each day
And until I joined here I would never have believed that hormones could be the cause of it all

I wish I was a man lol

I’m originally from Wolverhampton but have lived in Surrey for over 24 years
But I still have my northern accent

[Suzysheep]

I’m in the uk too.

That’s unfortunate we’re in bed when you’re active, but that gives you something to look forward to reading the replies in the morning!

Do you find the Canadian health system helpful with menopausal related symptoms?

I’m glad your day was better, hope today is too! X

[gm_thomson]

Hey all, i am back from the doctor. He is running bloodwork to check everything is ok, and has prescribed Pristiq (Desvenlafaxine) for now. He is also getting me an appointment with a cardiologist and wants to see me in 2 weeks. If the Pristiq doesnt work, he said he will get me an appointment later with a gynaecologist to consider HRT.

What does anyone know about this med Pristiq (Desvenlafaxine)? I looked on the forum and couldn't see much.. but its not in the UK?

[Michelle7474]

Glad you seen doctor & he is gonna do tests & refer you

That’s an antidepressant , hopefully it’s what you wanted and hope it works for you ..

Good luck with your bloods and things , hopefully soon you will be feeling like the old you again xx

[SMD]

Great to see your update. Let us know how you get on x

[gm_thomson]

Hi Gm
I just want you to know , your not losing your mind .. everything you have wrote most of us , including me have experienced & like you I thought something was seriously wrong.
Blood tests after Blood tests & all is normal ..
it’s hormonal for me & then the over thinking makes it 10x worse & I think the physical symptoms are worse
Mine would last days on end and be in fight and flight mode constantly, bloody horrendous & worse thing I’ve experienced
I did same as you with BP monitor & completely stopped using it as I feel I would panic more when it was so high.
Was in A&E twice and they wasn’t worried about it , so I decided I wouldn’t worry like it ..
I also hear my heart beat when I get into bed .. & like you I panicked .. now I get myself in a comfortable position where I don’t hear it
Our bodies are strange old things .. but please don’t think your going mad because you are not.

If it continues you can ask your GP for Anti Anxiety medication
It’s a god send to some

Everything you are saying is exactly how I felt .. and the lasting of few days was same .. so intense

It certainly seems hormonal , but your GP might run some blood tests .. that’s what they do with me but always come back fine .. which I never understood as I wasn’t fine.
Mine started end April .. and then June and then constant .. I take each day as it comes now because I just never know what the day is going to be like.
And don’t matter how many times it happens it’s still the worse feeling and I will never get used to them

Have you tried HRT ? For some that’s also a god send ..

Just wanted to let you know your not alone Xx 

Sounds like your symptoms and  timings are almost identical to mine, you aren’t taking any meds for it?

[Michelle7474]

Hi Gm
I just want you to know , your not losing your mind .. everything you have wrote most of us , including me have experienced & like you I thought something was seriously wrong.
Blood tests after Blood tests & all is normal ..
it’s hormonal for me & then the over thinking makes it 10x worse & I think the physical symptoms are worse
Mine would last days on end and be in fight and flight mode constantly, bloody horrendous & worse thing I’ve experienced
I did same as you with BP monitor & completely stopped using it as I feel I would panic more when it was so high.
Was in A&E twice and they wasn’t worried about it , so I decided I wouldn’t worry like it ..
I also hear my heart beat when I get into bed .. & like you I panicked .. now I get myself in a comfortable position where I don’t hear it
Our bodies are strange old things .. but please don’t think your going mad because you are not.

If it continues you can ask your GP for Anti Anxiety medication
It’s a god send to some

Everything you are saying is exactly how I felt .. and the lasting of few days was same .. so intense

It certainly seems hormonal , but your GP might run some blood tests .. that’s what they do with me but always come back fine .. which I never understood as I wasn’t fine.
Mine started end April .. and then June and then constant .. I take each day as it comes now because I just never know what the day is going to be like.
And don’t matter how many times it happens it’s still the worse feeling and I will never get used to them

Have you tried HRT ? For some that’s also a god send ..

Just wanted to let you know your not alone Xx 

Sounds like your symptoms and  timings are almost identical to mine, you aren’t taking any meds for it?

Hi Gm
No not taking anything now .. I stopped HrT 6 weeks ago , so hoping soon my hormones start to level off
Personally for me I think HRT or my vaccine ( Covid ) made things worse as until these I had only experienced aniexty once .. then it became daily so I stopped using it 
On week 6 now and it’s not each day like before and not as intense .. but it’s there still lingering and some days are worse than others but I’ve not had a period in 35/36 days ( that’s long for me )
So I’m hoping it’s where my own hormones are taking over .. if I was on hrt still it woulda been due last week

I can feel like one is going to happen it’s just a matter of when .. & I think that’s why I can feel all these feelings in background

You are most definitely not going mad that’s why I wanted yo reassure you

Have you started your tablet ?? I hope they help

Xxx

[gm_thomson]

So he gave me a requisition for bloodwork as well as a pelvic and vag U/S (to check i was in perimenopause? I mean what else could hot flashes and one period every 3 months and then 2 in a row, and all the other symptoms be at age 49 and for the last 2 years? I actually asked him jokingly and he laughed but i guess he is being careful?).

I went to the pharmacist to get the meds but the bottle had a big label “do not crush or split” and the instructions said “empty coating may come out in your stools” so I asked her cos the doctor wanted me to cut it in half for the first 3 days. And the pharmacist said no way cos its time release and cutting would dump it in all at once.

So i called the doctor back and of course he is off till Monday so I am not starting till i know for sure. Again I did Dr Google and it agreed with the pharmacist cos if you take it all at once i(which is what would happen if i cut it) then it can cause way worse side effects (which are nausea and headaches and a ton of symptoms that freak me out and/or are the same as menopausal ones). So I guess I survive on my own till Monday. Maybe thats a good thing though since if I do get these side effects it wont be on the weekend Am not overly happy about being on ADs but suspect I would feel the same with HRT. Asides the Pill I have been lucky and havent ever been on meds so far (occasional penicillin for infections) so am a bit nervous. But I cant live like this. I have been meditating for 20mins the last 2 weeks every day, eating more healthy (good news is the anxiety also makes me eat less so i have lost 10 pounds - got to look on the bright side), going for brisk walks every other day, and cut my drinking way back to 1 small glass of wine a week, drinking green tea etc etc.  And it doesnt help… yet. Makes me healthier though.

Been having these ?panic/anxiety attacks even more often now. Nighttime in front of the tv and in bed seem to be the latest thing. And a touch in the morning. I guess when my brain isnt distracted. What time did/do you guys get anxiety or is it variable?

[Suzysheep]

My anxiety is worse in the morning. As soon as I wake up I have a minute or two, then the dreaded anxious tummy kicks in. I wake early and try and lay there a bit, bit I’m so fidgety where I’m getting more and more anxious, I have to get up.
I have lost loads of weight in the last few weeks since this started. I have absolutely no appetite, and can’t keep anything down until 11am ish. Not even a cup of tea. I have to just sip water all morning.

You might be right on the distraction theory. Maybe try watching a box set that you can really get into to take your attention. I’ve been doing this and it really helps. I actually look forward to the evening, chilling on the sofa watching a good series.

Good idea not to take the tablets if you’re not sure.  The last thing you want is to be dealing with awful side effects from taking too higher dose.

I hope today is a better day x

[Michelle7474]

My aniexty used to come and stay mostly all day … and sometimes for days on end
Morning I always woke up with it & it just never had a pattern it was like it came whenever it felt like it.

Today I’ve felt it on and off most the day , but I believe it’s because I’m due on & I can kinda feel all the feelings so obviously my hormones are playing up.
Although it’s not as intense as was when on patches and when I first came off them

I always try and distract myself but sometimes that don’t help.
& I will never get used to them at all .. each time I always know I panic because that’s how it makes me feel

I would be like you with the AD don’t take until your aware as you don’t want more side effects
That’s what stopped me using them was side effects and also because I’m on warfrain for my blood .. I know AD can cause increased bleeding and if I can manage without them I will
Although I know a few that they help people and also a few that they don’t
But we all different and all tolerate different medication differently

I lost my appetite and I went from 12.4 down to 10.9 very fast .. because I always felt sick and like my left ribs was burning ( acid ) but that’s not so bad now and I eat regardless now as I don’t like losing weight so quick

I haven’t had a coffee for I dunno how long because I thought that made things worse .. I cut out loads of stuff & I suppose it wasn’t all that making me feel like this was actually aniexty and cortisol surges

I’ve not attempted a coffee since incase I get jittery .. so I drink just water now and occasionally lemonade

Mad how it’s changes our bodies and lifestyle and all this at such a young age lol .. I’m doomed

Can I ask a question to you both
I’ve never missed a period .. so when you missed periods did you still feel like you was going to get a period ? I can fully feel I’m going to get one and I remember seeing like ovulation discharge so I do believe I will
But just curious .. because I will find it strange missing a period .. as I find it strange that I’m late.

Hope your both ok tonight .. I’m currently laying on sofa feeling slightly jittery but ok kinda thing xx

[gm_thomson]

Hi there,  Sometimes I do feel like i am going to get one, then dont. Other times I dont feel anything. Its a case of "depends"