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[KarineT]

Shell, I am in the same boat.  I keep thinking about when this nonesense is going all to end.  I think puberty is problematic but it can't be as bad as this.  I had issues during my reproductive years as well.  I must have been sensitive to hormonal fluctuation because I would feel low, weepy and anxious on or around my periods.  The only difference is that it would last one day or 2 each month and I would be fine for the rest of the month. In my younger years I never thought this menopause could cause a host of horrible symptoms, particularly the psychological/emotional ones.  These are by far the  most troublesome ones.  At times I really envy those who don"t have them.

Take care

Karine

[CLKD]

A therapist told me years++ ago that the body "can only sustain a panic attack for 20 mins.".  Don't know which book she was reading, my longest was 3 days/nights.  Due to irritable bowel syndrome which I didn't find out until 3 years after.  I never went back to her.

Background anxiety can remain - I even dreamt about panic attacks  .  It's a wicked spiral.  When it becomes physical, i.e. affects my guts and thighs which go weak immediately the panic begins, then I'm no good to any1!

[Shell babes]

KarineT - I am also super sensitive to hormone fluctuations and to synthetic hormones, I completely understand what you are going through.

CLKD - a wicked spiral defines anxiety beautifully.

Michelle - I will PM you.

X

[CLKD]

   anxiety almost destroyed me 

[Shell babes]

I’m sorry to hear but can understand how anxiety can destroy a person and everything that they once were x

[CLKD]

Better now.  Medication, a good GP and a loving husband  kept me going in the 1990s.  I know it's 'there', lurking but the as necessary Pill works.

[KarineT]

Anxiety is a terrible thing and I sometimes wonder if it can be eradicated at all.  CLKD, do you have GAD or is the anxiety specific to something in particular?

[CLKD]

Long history from age 3 ............. still have triggers  such as people shouting at each other, even if they aren't related.

[EllaAurora]

Hi Michelle

Been pretty bad today energy wise and fatigue, pain etc. Rested as best I can (I have ME so with additional menopause symptoms it’s a nightmare).

Evening is better for me again, still pain and fatigue but general relaxation better.

Hope you’re day stayed okay, that’s good. I’m managing to maintain weight since starting HRT .. had barely any appetite prior to HRT and my mouth and throat was so dry food used to stick in throat.

Have a good evening xx

Hi wanna
I’m so sorry that you have another painful day .. it’s not nice when days are like that. But I’m happy your relaxed this evening
My day as been a on off day .. this morning was a shaky start and on off all day it’s been there .. I went for a drive with husband and then to mother in laws for a quick visit & then cash point in which I could feel the panic come on .. but I breathed through it & got back in the car .. so I’ve been out today .. just not how i used too .. but small steps make better changes eh
A lot of people have said they suffered with stomach or throat problems bizzare
Let’s hope tomorrow is better days for us both , infact for everyone
I hope your evening gets more relaxed for you .. xxxx

Hi Michelle, just wanna comment this: you've had a very active day yesterday -going for a drive, visiting mother in law and even going to the cash point. These may seem small things, but are they are NOT! Remember to praise and thank yourself for managing all these on one day! My experience is that its just sooo important to keep going even with small steps and do everyday something that is difficult - just not something which is too difficult because then it can backfire.. but small challenging things. I'm thinking that my anxiety, especially the social anxiety part, is probably partly hormonal but partly due to prolonged covid-isolation. Having had over a year with very limited contacts and working from home, has certainly impacted me very negatively. Of course if it wasn't for the hormonal turmoil I'd probably get back to normal easier but with that combined, the return to normal things like going to supermarket, taking a train, going to office, not to even mention going for a flight.. all these normal things have suddenly become difficult and scary. Which is why we need to keep pushing ourselves to do them anyway..

Hope you're having a good day and feeling better! xxx

[Mindfulmoomins]

Hi everyone,

Just wondering how you all are?

A little update from me: I have been feeling a lot better, like myself and back at work for the past 8 weeks.

But now feeling wobbly again. I know it is to be expected but it’s so disconcerting and frightening. I am being extra kind to myself. It will pass but I wish it wasn’t here to start with!

Anyway, sorry for not coming back before to say hi. I kind of accelerated into life once I felt better as I felt so grateful to feel like me again. So, I know I’ll find stability again and if anyone else is wobbling today please know I am wobbling right with you and you are not alone.

Warm hugs xx

[Kathleen]

Hello ladies.

Mindfulmoomins - I am actually having a mega wobble today so thank you for your post. It helps so much to know that I am not alone.

Take care.

K.

[Mindfulmoomins]

Ah, it helps me too although I would take it away for you in a heartbeat if I could. Xx

[Kathleen]

Hello again Mindfulmoomins


Thank you for your kind words, much needed today and truly appreciated!

I love the way this forum helps us support each other.

Wishing you well and take care.

K.

[Skylark]

Hello all,

I found this thread and it explains how I'm feeling. The anxiety has been ramping up for months  I've been telling myself it's not without reason- I work full time in a stressful job (frontline care throughout Covid), have had a lot of worry about my youngest son,  plus my own gynae issues, etc., but I wake around 4 or 5 every morning no matter when I fall asleep. It feels like a surge of fear and my stomach is in a knot. I seem to live my life mostly in dread, having pipe dreams about running away and starting a new life. This can't be the way to spend this one precious life. I'm very happily married and hubby is supportive and loving. Like many others I feel a little better towards evening,  then the whole cycle starts again. I do yoga, meditate,  walk and chastise myself for the fact I'm still struggling.

Sending a hug to all.

[Mindfulmoomins]

I totally understand Skylark. It’s so tough when it’s like that. Are you on HRT? Does it feel like the right dose?

I have a really strong meditation practise but still found myself overwhelmed with anxiety and other difficult feelings at times. It almost felt worse that I was exercising, eating well and ‘doing all the things’ and it didn’t seem to make it better. An antidepressant helped me along with all the other self care but I appreciate that’s not for everyone.

Thinking of you xx