Hi Chrissyjo. What is it about HRT that frightens you? Perhaps start a separate thread? It is only replacing the hormones you no longer produce, and the scare stories are based on old, discredited research. Many women get on fine with it.
For vulval and vaginal problems, plus general info on hormone replacement (or not!) the private Vaginal Atrophy Facebook support group is a great resource. Louise Newson's website My Menopause Doctor is also excellent for all meno symptoms and topics.
JP x