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[Baby]

I have been on gel utro just going into my sixth month. Have increased to six pumps under guidance from newson health the last month but no difference for me. Joint pain is getting worse anxiety crying etc no better and now my sinuses are completely blocked which I have never had before. I have also lost a stone in weight over the last year even though I eat more than I used to. Sleep is crap. Maybe I am doing it to myself mentally I just dont  now.

[Shell babes]

Sorry to hear. Maybe go back to Newson Health for advice if it's not working. Are the new AD's having any effect? None of this is your fault, it's happening to you regardless, you?re certainly not doing it to yourself. I know it's hard as you can feel like you?re going mad but you aren't. 😊

[Baby]

I really dont know if ad are helping. Yesterday I had a preety good day but am fed up with the anxiety and feeling drained all the time.Friday I felt horrendous and Saturday morning omg I nearly phoned an ambulance I felt so I'll. Just feel like there is something else wrong with me that doctor hasn't found.

[daisie]

hi baby ,you not on your own.iv been like it for a long time and its not getting any better in my case ,every thing i take causes me to have bad side effects so i dont take anything i know you have to persivere  with them but i cant stand feeling worse than i already am i just dont see an end to all this x   

[Baby]

O Dasie it just seems never ending. How can one day I feel almost normal and another day suicidal. I can't make any plans because I don't know how I am going to be. I have a good life with friends and family and just feel I'll not depressed most of the time. Just sick of living like this.

[CLKD]

Don't make plans.  Be kind to yourself.  It's The Change and throws up some awful feelings sometimes. 

Make sure that you eat well, keep hydrated, exercise gently and have plenty of 'me' time. 

[Baby]

It's the weight thing that worries me. I am eating well and actually eat more than I used to yet I have lost a stone. Am 8 stone 4 only.

[CLKD]

Get your Practice Nurse to weigh you regularly in the surgery?  The same scales once a week? 

[Shell babes]

Baby - you may find the weight loss is due to stress.  You are anxious due to hormones and / or depression, then you are anxious because you are anxious. Added to this, poor sleep leading to exhaustion etc.  You become stressed because you are worrying, understandably, burning up all the nervous energy not understanding what on earth is happening to you.  AD's can take a while to work and sometimes you can feel worse before better. 

Please be reassured that you are not alone and all the symptoms you are experiencing due to meno/depression/anxiety/insomnia are normal even though it feels horrific. Maybe, as CLKD says, get your weight checked at the surgery to put your mind at rest.  Have a read at Professor Studd's site, he goes into great detail about peri, meno, HRT and reproductive hormonal depression which you can be prone to if you have had PND before.  Don't be so hard on yourself, I know it's hard to see the wood for the trees but I am sure once your hormones are levelled out and the AD?S start to work you will feel a difference.  Has testosterone been suggested to you, may help with the fatigue / exhaustion side of things ...?

[Baby]

I had really bad PND with my first baby so much so that we decided not to have any more. Then I got caught and all my family and me were frightened it would happen again. But I was absolutely fine. Newson did say about testosterone in a couple of months time. You know I always had guilt about not bonding with my daughter and the guilt has intensified with menopause but she and I have really talked about it and she does not blame me one bit. She is my rock

[Shell babes]

Good that you have talked about the PND / bonding thing. Try not to feel guilty as it wasn't your fault.  I had bad PND when my son was born so I know exactly what you mean.  I'm sure that we have made up for this in the long run.  it's a tough road to travel and I'm glad you didn't have PND the second time.  I have one child, probably because I was terrified of PND ever happening again.  Anyway, great that testosterone may be on the cards for you. 

I read Prof Studd's site about reproductive hormonal depression both at post natal and meno and it really helped to see the symptoms written down by him in black and white. Made me feel like I wasn't losing my mind after all and there was a 'scientific? reason to explain the terrible symptoms I was experiencing.