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[Liane]

Thank you so much for letting me join this forum, as I feel a bit like a basket case. I think I've just entered menopause and the last two weeks have been so tricky. Up until two weeks ago I was incredibly happy, and it sounds ridiculous but our neighbours son moved back and I have become an anxiety ridden mess. We have a long history of him blasting music at all hours and me continually going round there (which didn't end well). He's now moved back and his drug and mental health issues have intensified. I spend all day in this anxious phase waiting for noise and when it happens I'm so angry. My stomach is in continual knots and I feel sick and can't eat. I have spoken to his parents for the first time in ten years and they are apologetic and trying to keep it down, so at least they are more helpful than before.

Now the noise is annoying to my family but they really don't understand, and I know it's not really about that, I'm just for some unknown reason really anxious and teary.
In any case (sorry very long first message!) I can't see my doctor for a month, and even then it can only be a phone call due to the coronavirus. I haven't sought any help yet and haven't spoken to anyone as feel so irrational. So as I am unable to see the doctor was hoping for any advice you all can give.

Thanks for reading, it feels a little better just to say it.

[CLKD]

Hi! we have a thread which I began entitled 'noise'.  For me it's not being able to control the outcome, I feel that people are selfish.  Whether it's builders, loud music, people with engines running with headlights blazing late into the night.  We had two properties built opposite us 8 years ago: two lots of builders; two radios outside on the drive tuned to different stations  ; all builders working upstairs, oh how I could have crushed those radios.  They would shout at each other above the radios rather than shut them off. 

I understand. I really really do.  If you have spoken to the parents maybe ask how the drug situation is, any improvement for example?  Who invited him back ......... without boundaries?  Contact your local Drugs Officer at your local Police station, he may have a record which they can access.  He may already be under the supervision of a Social Worker and contact your Local Council Offices about noise pollution.  Rather than letting it get to you ask them to fit you with a noise measurement system ......... and keep a log as to when the loud music happens.

If there are drugs involved and the Police think he is dealing, there will be consequences. 

[Liane]

Thank you will check out the noise thread and the others on anxiety. Liane x

[Focus]

Hello

Sorry to hear this, this is an absolute nightmare.

I have PTSD and had a very mentally ill neighbour in the flat next to me (adjoining walls).

We (myself and all her neighbours) went the route of the police, social work and our local counsellors.

Anytime there was a disturbance one of us would call the police and get a reference number from them. We logged all of our complaints and listed these to the police, social work, local counsellors and housing association (who were letting her her flat).

Every night, there would be about 4 or 5 calls to the police, from different neighbours, at various points during the night.

So, I know how horrible this is.

If you've spoken to them before about it, I would just go the police route. She was very vulnerable (schizophrenic) and I think she was being exploited by some not very nice people.

I've also dealt with druggies in my own stair, previous to that. And a downstairs neighbour who used to play the drums at midnight.

I've lived in my house for 25 years by the way, so that wasn't all in a short space of time...lol!