Hi BeaR , thanks for asking me what I eventually settled on. I don't believe that you were around when I first came here so to save you having to look my posts up...
I first started on elleste duet tablet hrt when the 4 th gp I saw agreed it was my hormones that was making me feel " not right ", you know your own body don't you. I was about 48, after a few weeks I was back to the normal me. Fast forward about 3/4 years and it just stopped working for me. I was wretched, in a very dark place, my insides felting like they were fizzing or vibrating, anxiety off the scale and I truly thought I was dying! In fact some days I wished I was! I had to pack up work as some days I couldn't even wash or dress myself. Strangely I never had hot flushes. I decided to see a private consultant where I spent the next year,18months wasting my time, not money as he told my gp what to prescribe, trying 3 months oestrogen only, still no improvement with gel or patch, then the " good star" gel and utrogeston, that made matters worse! He prescribed testosterone, Androfeme which is formulated for women, you name it I tried it. In the end I threw myself on my dr desk, literally, and begged him to give something to make this stop! He prescribed mirtazapine which I know is controversial here in itself but I didn't care at that point. Within 2/3 weeks with the support by PM of a member on here also on it I was back to living and enjoying my life slowly again. Now I don't care if it's the first line appropriate medication or the science behind it, in MY menopause it gave me my life back. I've since moved home, moved area, started a new job, travelled and found joy again. Bet you wish you hadn't asked.
However people choose to manage their menopause I support you and wish you luck.
Hurdity , I'm really sorry to hear that you are unable to apologise for my "imaginary" hurt feelings , I assure you they didn't feel imagined.😢