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[Kb21]

I've realised I'm pretty miserable and unmotivated at the moment. I think it's much to do with the winter. And I'm recovering from flu.

I seem to feel stressed about pretty much anything I have to do. It's really annoying. I worry about every little thing, stress about doing it and then realise after there was no need to stress.

I'm so over cooking at the moment, I used to enjoy it but it just feels like a massive chore.... Which means we're not eating as healthily as usual and then I feel bad...

Sorry just needed a moan.

[CLKD]

You moan.  It's *that* time of year  .  Why do any cooking other than what you would usually eat, we don't.  If it's in front of me, I don't touch anything that I wouldn't eat year round, other than mince pies 

[Roseneath]

Yep. Totally sympathise. I think the dark, wet days don't help at all. If we were transported to a warm climate where it was light until midnight all year I'm sure there wouldn't be so many of us feeling like this.  I felt like curling up in my bed all day today with my black thoughts looping round.  It is so very hard to shake it off; especially if you have nothing you have to do. I felt better out walking in the rain and the dark that inside trying to make out I felt normal. I wish I had a Loose women style group of friends in a similar position who I could laugh and cry with out it but I don't have anyone. The only place I do any moaning is on this forum. 

[CLKD]

Dank lowers my mood. 

[Roseneath]

I have just been sitting in front of the oven with the door open (at 180'C) trying to simulate being in a hot country.
It didn't really work very well with the background smell of greasy spring rolls. 

[Kb21]

Greasy spring rolls 

I know the dark is really not helping, but, you never anticipate it being this bad even though it happens every year...

What really throws me is any change of routine, this is quite a new symptom...where I've been off sick and not able to do stuff that's made me feel low as well.

Thanks ladies, great as always to know there's people out there who understand.

I don't have a close group of female friends either. It's a real shame, I think that would help.

[CLKD]

I HATE any change of routine  - goes back to when I was 3.

[NaturalMystic]

Yep. Totally sympathise. I think the dark, wet days don't help at all. If we were transported to a warm climate where it was light until midnight all year I'm sure there wouldn't be so many of us feeling like this.  I felt like curling up in my bed all day today with my black thoughts looping round.  It is so very hard to shake it off; especially if you have nothing you have to do. I felt better out walking in the rain and the dark that inside trying to make out I felt normal. I wish I had a Loose women style group of friends in a similar position who I could laugh and cry with out it but I don't have anyone. The only place I do any moaning is on this forum. 

I could have written this.  Its a lonely place isn't it 😒

[Kb21]

I find it really lonely....just don't feel I can speak about it to anyone..

I'm referring myself to steps to well being this week.

[NaturalMystic]

I do have 2 members of my team who suffer with anxiety attacks so we do talk about it.  I think they are relieved that their boss gets it 😉

When I'm in and attack though I fid it really hard to move, let alone talk so even Ina crowded room full of people its lonely.  I kinda of freeze inside my own head, if that makes sense.

[Night_Owl]

kb21, moan away, I'm with you - you're not alone in feeling miserable and unmotivated - I've been like this since my periods stopped c.12 years ago - been on high to low dose HRT over many years, none of it really made me feel that good.

If it was possible, I would live on astronaut dried food and never cook again.  Nigella can jog on. 

I get this strange thing whenever I'm doing chores and cooking, in fact almost anything - I do things impatiently and too quickly, rushed (slapdash probably) in an irritated manner - as I just want the chores to be over and done with.  All part of my meno madness - I used to just do things at a steady, happy pace in times gone by pre-meno when I was slightly more 'normal'.

Not wishing to sound shallow - this is rather trivial but never fails to snap me out of the gloom, even just momentarily - you can't watch it without chuckling ... yes, it's the *fabulous* Simon's Cat ... (I'm more of a dog person but still love it).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nn2h3_aH3vo       

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZNfGVE-_rms

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyYYHLygi3s

[CLKD]

I LOVE Simon's cat which has evolved into calendars etc., but it ain't the same as the cartoon 

Anything that lifts mood has to be useful 

[NaturalMystic]

kb21, moan away, I'm with you - you're not alone in feeling miserable and unmotivated - I've been like this since my periods stopped c.12 years ago - been on high to low dose HRT over many years, none of it really made me feel that good.

If it was possible, I would live on astronaut dried food and never cook again.  Nigella can jog on. 

I get this strange thing whenever I'm doing chores and cooking, in fact almost anything - I do things impatiently and too quickly, rushed (slapdash probably) in an irritated manner - as I just want the chores to be over and done with.  All part of my meno madness - I used to just do things at a steady, happy pace in times gone by pre-meno when I was slightly more 'normal'.

Not wishing to sound shallow - this is rather trivial but never fails to snap me out of the gloom, even just momentarily - you can't watch it without chuckling ... yes, it's the *fabulous* Simon's Cat ... (I'm more of a dog person but still love it).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nn2h3_aH3vo       

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZNfGVE-_rms

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyYYHLygi3s

Would I lie to You helps me at times 😂

[Ladybt28]

Kb21 and Roseneath - I'm with you - cant shake it at all and to be honest I'm bored with myself now and lonely too.
I only tell the truth when I'm on the forum and the rest of the time....that is if I ever leave the house and put myself in a position where I actually have to meet anyone face to facee... I'm faking it and it's exhausting.  The others here will tell you that I have been banging on for the last 2 months about how being miserable and unmotivated is getting me down so you have a moan - its good to moan!  After years and years of it you would think I'd be used to it by now.

Actually it's so bad I can't actually put my finger on anything which will lift my mood - CKLD..I need to pull myself together...having said that... "Nigella can jog on!!"  ha ha - was grinning

I was like you at one time Night_Owl couldn't get things over and done with quick enough and then was frustrated because it ended up "slapdash" as you say oh and I could have killed someone whilst I was doing whatever it was and not raised an eyebrow - I have to say that has passed now.  I can actually do things calmly, that's if I get motivated enough to start, so that bit can pass. There is hope.

I'm a huge sunshine freak and this time of year crucifies me.  Like the oven thing Roseneath but it's just not the same is  it 
Wish I was on the cruise with Jaypo.

[Roseneath]

Third night of maybe 4 hours sleep. Convinced I've got Parkinsons or something I feel so shaky internally and legs twitching. Icing on the cake was when hubbie told me at 5am to pull myself together, stop wallowing in self pity and ruining Christmas for the kids...no pressure then. I know he is right in some ways though. Just got kids concert, packing, 8 hours drive and night in Premier Inn to survive now. Any tips ladies? I feel scared, wretched and pathetic.