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[Miabella]

Donna Paul,

Have done all the free ones but will go back over them agai

[CLKD]

Do you have a brolley?  I carry one all year round, useful in hot sunshine.  Keeping hydrated too.  Will you swim?

[Miabella]

Just wanted to post that yesterday, which started off so awful I finally resorted to taking a Diazopam, ended up with me feeling pretty much ‘myself' by evening. And that meant I actually got about 7 hours sleep too.

So if you are reading this and feeling bad, hang on in there because a better day may be just about to happen. I am not great at reminding myself of this. I think I need to start and keep a diary to look back through

[Tiddles]

Hi Miabella

3 things that helped me cope with my menopause induced  anxiety while I was waiting to start HRT, and which you could try on holiday were :

1) Going through a list of the important areas of my life in my head reassuring myself there was not, in reality, anything to feel anxious about (eg "Daughter is well and happy " / " Work's fine" / "Money's OK " /  OH has a date for his op" etc etc. Doing this reassured me that there was no real basis for feeling anxious

2) Not drinking any alcohol at all. It always, always made the anxiety worse so I knocked it on the head completely

3) Going for a walk on my own for an hour first thing in the morning when it was cool and quiet. I walked at a good pace, 30 minutes from the house then 30 minutes back and always felt better for it. Making myself do it the first day was hard. In the end  I loved it.

Xx

[Miabella]

Hi Tiddles,

Thanks for your suggestions. I don't drink and have started an early morning walk these last 2 days. It's the nicest time of day here and is a good way to pass some time if I have been awake from very early. I will try your first suggestion - have been wondering if I should actually write down the list so I can read them.

Anything is worth a try, so thanks again

X

[CLKD]

Even now if I have a bad few weeks I put 1-5 on the calendar, if anxiety gets to 5 I have to take the emergency pill.  1 is background .........

[Miabella]

My husband will ask where I am on a scale of 1-10, but I think I may start to use 1-5 instead. Right now I'd be a 3......

[paisley]

Hi Miabella
Really sympathize with you. It's horrible when you are away too. I find muscle relaxation helps me which I found on YouTube & something else that really helps is valerian which is a natural remedy. You can get it in the supplement section of most supermarkets. I live in Spain & get mine there. It works on your GABA levels in the brain which control anxiety in exactly the same was as diazepam does. I find it so good when I am traveling. Xx

[CLKD]

Like when I have pain anywhere, what makes it worse is not knowing how long it might last 

Any improvement Miabella?  and how's the view this morning?

[Miabella]

Thanks paisley,

I am Italy at the moment. Will have a look for valerian here, if not will try when I get back home.

X

[Miabella]

CLKD

The past few days have been manageable- wake up with the dreads but they have been going by early afternoon. Even when I do feel ok though, the thought that it can come back at any time hangs over me. I am trying to congratulate myself that I am getting through each day though, and that at least sometimes I do feel like I am on holiday.

Forecast for our last few days says it will be a little cooler which is much welcomed. Just about to go for my early morning walk.

Thanks for keeping in touch x

[coldlittleheart]

Hey Miabella, I get that morning thing too, waking up with a dark cloud over my head. I wondered if I was alone like that, seems like that's not the case, so I can sympathise, it isn't a nice way to get up.

Hope you manage to enjoy the rest of your holiday. x

[Dierdre]

I used to always get anxious going on holiday as I was travelling alone with 3 children abroad so always took diazepam. I rarely actually had to take it but just knowing I had it was like a comfort blanket. Also getting too much sun on your head can make you feel weird, wear a hat and drink more water. Think to yourself, what's the worst can happen, is it really going to happen? No.

[Roseneath]

Reading this post reinforces to me that a good nights sleep is so important during bad phases. Without that the ' next day' always seems a struggle for me and I worry during the day that I ' must' get a good night the next night. Does anyone have any tips on this? I have read a few insomnia books which didn't really help and try to do all the usual brain calming techniques. The only thing that has really switched off the circular night 'churn' is diazapam (I have only taken it three times in as many years when I felt at the end of my tether) which made me feel light and happy for a few hours.

[CLKD]

Many years ago I was in a very busy job.  Looking back, in those 8 years I didn't sleep properly, ever.  However, after months of not getting to sleep and worrying that I wouldn't be able to cope the next day: I usually did : I thought "Not sleeping hasn't killed me yet" and dropped off  . It sounds simplistic but it worked for a while.  Now when I get a bad night: I can drop off OK then wake after an hour or not go off to sleep until around 3.30 a.m.; I read, listen to music, make a cuppa, wash up ..........

My body has used up energy this week in the heat so I've felt queasy for a couple of days.  I'm trying to munch.  Regularly.   

Cuppa to hand!

Miabella - that 'will it come back' is common.  Of course it will.  We know that.  Bugga .......... I try now to enjoy being in the moment, sometimes I stand; listening to the birds, looking at the view, enjoying my relaxed body at that moment.  Bliss ;-)