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[Snoooze]

Hi Biker Chick,
Sorry, it's a few days since you posted but I don't log on here everyday.
Well at least you know he's not in love with her. Typical man who lashes out to cause hurt without thinking about things. I can understand how he likes to talk to her as it reminds him of the work he has given up.
I'm not impressed with that woman finding it tiresome you wished to talk to her. She doesn't sound that likeable tbh!
I hope now you've had a good discussion about it that things are improving?

[DeniseC]

Hi, I have just feeling  the impact of menopause! Up until now I was very rarely ill, bubbly and confident and could cope with any amount of stress that my job and life threw at me .......... then it all started!!!

I have since started having severe palpitations, anxiety attacks, difficulty sleeping, hot sweats, weepy, high blood pressure and generally feel out of control of anything!!! including periods which just come when they please. I asked for help from my GP and after blood tests etc was prescribed Beta blockers, Remparil for the blood pressure and Anti depressants to help with the anxiety and sleepless nights.
I was so glad to read that other ladies were experiencing similar effects and that I was not alone in feeling the way I do. Don't be afraid to go to your GP and ask for help to relieve the symptoms xx

[CLKD]

Denise - do you feel that your GP listened to you?   Have you a history of depression etc.?  Do have a browse round and once you begin to feel 'better' you may like to consider if HRT might help - maybe make a list of symptoms for the next 3 months then you will have an idea of which is the worst ....... in the meantime, browse round, make notes!

Did the GP explain what each medication is actually for?  I have taken ADs since 1988 successfully and really necessary; BBs were prescribed in 2002 and am now giving side-effects - they have been useful in easing any anxiety surges.  Some ADs actually help some ladies with easing hot flushes - it is Trial and Error!

[MIS71MUM]

DeniseC - I'm exactly the same as you!  My blood pressure is rapidly shooting up - my mood is flat and low and am now getting migraines!
I'm not sure if to increase my patch to 100mg or come off HRT altogether!
All I know is that's it's totally rubbish!

[CLKD]

You need to discuss with your prescribing practitioner if headaches are a problem!

[Biker Chick]

Thanks for your supportive comments Snooze. I agree she is not a very nice person but I'm I'm not going to let her ruin my relationship and I am hoping me and my fella have turned a corner and we are trying to start afresh as I now know he isn't in love with her but the link she has to his previous job. Don't know what the future holds but I'm hoping it's good. Thanks also CLKD. 
Denise C, I totally understand how you feel. All the symptoms of the menopause knock you for six don't they. I was exactly the same as you happy, bubbly and could cope with pressure. Now I'm the same as you, palpitations, night sweats, sleepless nights, anxiety, crying for England and generally feeling very low and that every day is a struggle. I'm going to see my hypnotherapist tomorrow as she has helped me previously with my self esteem issues so I'm hoping she can help me with my depression. Hang in there Denise C, we are all in this together. I have found this forum a real help and I only found it a couple of weeks ago. Everyone is so supportive. You are not alone x

[MIS71MUM]

How are all the ladies on this thread?
Weirdly and happily I am out of the giant crater and back on the up.  I don't recognise the person who wrote the original email!
Okay, I am not doing cartwheels but I'm not feeling as low as I did. 
So to me it proves I'm having a form of cycle maybe and or peri.
I really hope you ladies are getting some respite or having better days.

Hang on all of you - better days will come xxx

[CLKD]

Don't do too much too soon or you will use up your energy.  Been there, done that 

[MIS71MUM]

Thanks CLKD - it's easy to forget to pace yourself when you have a good day.

[Optimist]

Hi have been reading this thread and just wanted today I agree with the perimenopausal “cycle” time messing with your moods/emotions.
I have tried a few hrts now and (always scared to say this) feel I may be feeling better in Femoston 1/5 conti. Although I'm in peri still I saw a menopause specialist at my local clinic and described to her how the other progesterone cycles of hrt had left me feeling. I also stated that the when the day came that I finished periods altogether would be my happiest day and I'd even considered asking for a hysterectomy due to predominantly mood swings and other symptoms. The hrt I'm now on has stopped my any bleeds which were erratic and I feel stable and calm and dare I say beginning to feel happy again. My energy has increased, back and joint ache has stopped and my fine hair is growing and thickening. Who'd had thought that a continuous low dose of progesterone when I was clearly displaying progesterone intolerance would work (also the increase in oestrogen was on everol sequi 50 patches). Initially in femoston I felt really down but now on month 3 and so hoping this continues.
The reason I'm posting this is that this may help others that are still struggling with cyclical misery. It's such a difficult time for some and I've been down there and up there and really hoping I've found the right one now.
Ps re fella's, they can be wonderful and then completely tiresome I have even said to mine he's going through man-o -pause!!! It's difficult for them to understand what we're going through and they don't communicate well. A piece of advice I was given a few times from this site is don't do anything rash re other halves while feeling low as it's often lack of communication and how we are feeling that makes any problem seem insurmountable.
💐 for you all xx

[CLKD]

There is a page on here specifically for men  - print off and hand?

Also hyesterctomy is major surgery and shouldn't be undertaken unless absolutely necessary.  It won't stop symptoms!

[Katia]

Optimist, I totally hear you. I'm having cycle problems. This week I'm showing signs of way too high estrogen. I feel like a puff ball. A couple of weeks ago I needed that amount of estrogen. I'm all over the place.  I tried femoston briefly but blew up like a balloon. I only stuck it a week, maybe I should have stuck it longer.  I'm struggling to find what works for me. I'm glad femoston is working for you m

[Roseneath]

MIS71MUM. Totally identify with your post. At some times of the month my anxiety is sky high and then a few weeks later its pretty much calmed down. I had a big kids party planned for Saturday; spent weeks getting it ready but on Saturday morning I couldn't face getting out of bed. My heart seemed to be spasming, dry mouth,  muscle twitches, in sheer panic convinced I was going to die. After starting at the wall for an hour my husband getting frustrated with me he just said ' look is this thing on or off'. So I fought back. Got out of bed, started moving. And I did it. Had an amazing party lasting 3 hours. Would never have thought it possible. Proves how much the mind / hormones can mess with you physically. I am frustrated that no GP can tell me which chemical or doing this is it high or low. I am starting Sertraline on Wednesday which a new GP has strongly recommended I try.

[MIS71MUM]

Congratulations Roseneath - well done. Kids parties are so busy and stressful - my kids are 7 and 9 so I'm familiar with the stress they cause!!!
I take an AD to help with the mood swings, anxiety and low mood that goes with the Peri menopause. It has helped me a lot.
I'm totally with you about the GP experience. Most of them aren't interested in balancing or sorting out the hormones, they want to handover a prescription for an AD and that's it.
For me, I need both HRT and AD to feel just okay!
Looking forward to the day when my ovaries finally give up and hope that then I'll get more stability.
Good luck with the Sertraline x