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HopeAlone

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Re: Depressed about not having a partner
« Reply #15 on: November 06, 2017, 05:07:11 PM »

I'm a single lady too
But at the moment I feel like a bag lady
I haven't had my hair cut for nearly a year just chop at the fringe with my scissors . My eyebrows are like furry caterpillars and can't remember when I last wore make up I look like Frank Gallagher  :o. I'm 48 but feel like I'm now on the scrap heap.
Mind you I don't mind being single as I do like my independence and doing what I want when I want. I have my youngest still at home and my dog and cat for company
 :scottie: :catscratch:
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CLKD

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Re: Depressed about not having a partner
« Reply #16 on: November 06, 2017, 05:27:00 PM »

May I ask - who is Frank Gallagher  :-\


May I ask also - how is your chin  ;) [we have a thread here somewhere  ::) ]
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HopeAlone

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Re: Depressed about not having a partner
« Reply #17 on: November 06, 2017, 07:38:33 PM »

Frank Gallagher was the lead character in shameless lol
I have been aware of a few issues regarding the chin but I am fending them off with tweezers. My mam suffered terribly with facial hair i remember I was always at her with the immac x
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CLKD

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Re: Depressed about not having a partner
« Reply #18 on: November 06, 2017, 08:12:35 PM »

Yep - tweezers are to hand where ever I am: in the car, camper, bathroom, bedroom - along with a mirror that enlarges the area I'm plucking at.
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Biker Chick

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Re: Depressed about not having a partner
« Reply #19 on: November 06, 2017, 11:38:44 PM »

Hi Mabel64, sorry you are feeling this way. Big hug to you :bighug: I was on my own for a long long time and thought the same as you that I wouldn't meet anyone. I have been with my current fella for 3 years. Believe me it is not all plain sailing and takes a lot of hard work. To be honest I get more support from my friends dealing with my menopause symptoms particularly the depression and weepiness, than I do from my fella. Blokes have no idea what we are going through. I wholeheartedly agree with everything the ladies on the forum suggested, I feel sure you will meet someone probably when you least expect it.
CLKD, I'm with you about the tweezers. Mine go everywhere with me, although I seem to fighting a losing battle, I have more hair on my chin that on my head and a lot of them are turning white, the joys of getting old!
Hang in there Mabel64, you are never alone on this forum. We are all in this together and we all support each other x
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CLKD

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Re: Depressed about not having a partner
« Reply #20 on: November 07, 2017, 11:59:43 AM »

White.  And tuff ?
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dangermouse

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Re: Depressed about not having a partner
« Reply #21 on: November 07, 2017, 08:36:56 PM »

Some great advice here!

Sorry you're feeling so low, it seems as if you really are focusing on what you believe you're lacking and not what you believe you have to offer. Write down a list of all your good points and the things about you that friends like and what makes you interesting company. If you honestly don't think there is enough in your list, then find something in life to get passionate about, maybe art or clubs you can join or bands you can follow.

Not only will you grow then as a person but you may then meet someone who shares those interests along the way. If you don't yet believe in yourself you may find it's not the right time to get into a relationship as you'll be relying on them too much and feeling not good enough. I suspect, right now, you do have interesting views to hold a good old conversation and that's what holds a relationship together.

Looks can attract attention but so can bright clothes and a bright smile and a confident walk. One of my friends is always asking men out, they don't all say yes but they are always flattered and impressed by her and she feels good just having had the conversation with them. We're all just humans, full of self doubt at times and it's really for you to decide what you'd like and then go and get it! Why should you deserve any less?
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CLKD

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Re: Depressed about not having a partner
« Reply #22 on: November 07, 2017, 08:56:14 PM »

Well said dangermouse!  :thankyou:
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