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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #15 on: August 30, 2017, 12:06:28 PM »

There are also ladies who for reasons don't want or or have been advised not to take HRT but have depression/anxiety which can therefore, be eased with appropriate NICE approved medications.  I've had a few e-mails in recent weeks from really new Members who have looked in, seen how HRT is recommended over ADs and Anti-anxiety Meds., haven't dared ask about the latter and have decided to leave.  What happens to them  :-\

It took me 5 different ADs B4 I found one that helped: the initial drugs caused intense nausea which I cannot tolerate: Prozac made me feel as though I was walking on shoes with 7" high soles as well as causing pins and needles every time I put my foot to the ground  ::) it probably looked funny to anyone watching me when I took the dogs out every day - so do re-think this type of medication as things have certainly improved since then. 

I fought against taking ADs because I wanted to find out what was causing my depression - but no one in the medical profession was prepared to do any investigations - I have a hereditary background of various types of depression, dysfunctional behaviours etc.; I was able to recognise my pre-menstrual depression as I have stated in various threads here; I have organic and clinical depression and sometimes it's a battle getting the medication profession to accept that!!

Going back to the original statement from Wendy: "I feel depressed and anxious most of the time."-  then reading some of the responses here  :-X

I know when very ill I was deeply, pre-hensilly afraid when I woke, usually around 5.00 a.m.  I would shake with terror.  Once appropriate medication kicked in, these feelings eased and as long as I don't take on too much on a daily basis and as long as I take my ADs and anti-anxiety medication on a regular basis, usually I am able to cope.  >phew<.  I think that for me, being on appropriate medication for a long time prior to going into peri, meant that I was able to adjust my meds. as required on a daily basis with my GP's approval. 

I wonder often if there is actually a blood test that can prove whether depression is hormonally led?  If so and if reliable, then surely a GP could tell a lady suffering at The Change which medication is appropriate?

NOMOREPANIC were absolutely useless for me as my first panic attack was at aged 3.  CBT didn't work for the same reason - a lot of my problems were caused shortly after birth [long story short] in order to save my Life.  So automatic responses became engrained >sigh<
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Mary G

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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #16 on: August 30, 2017, 12:16:47 PM »

Wendy65, sorry, I now realise you have a Mirena coil.  My problems with the Mirena coil started when I stopped producing enough oestrogen - I had not really had any problems before that.  There seems to be a correlation between falling oestrogen and problems kicking off with progesterone.  I had my first coil in 1998 but started getting problems in about 2002 when I was 41 and hit the menopause.

Having experienced something similar myself, I would suggest you try swapping the tablet for Oestrogel (you rub it on your skin) and try to get a good dose of oestrogen into your system.  I would suggest you try two pumps split by 12 hours to get an even dose.

I tried the patches with the Mirena coil but couldn't get anything like enough oestrogen out of them and the symptoms persisted.  The gel is good because you can get an oestrogen hit quickly and it is easy to adjust the dose up or down.  I wish I had tried this combination myself but I ended up having the coil removed.

Why not would give it a try, see if you have any improvement in mood and go on from there. 
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #17 on: August 30, 2017, 12:19:51 PM »

So because the coil wasn't mentioned in the initial post - and not many of us scroll back through threads  ::) - it means that the immediate responses couldn't be more helpful.
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #18 on: August 30, 2017, 12:41:17 PM »

Quite so CLKD, I missed Wendy's second post where she mentioned she has had a Mirena for some time.  Now it makes more sense. 
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Hurdity

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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #19 on: August 30, 2017, 01:47:15 PM »

Here we go again!!!!

Let's get this straight – no-one is “pushing” for a certain sort of treatment.

Wendy – apologies for the digression – sometimes it is unfortunately necessary.....

CLKD – we have been through this many times before and by pm as you know. Re the HRT question and the new members you are referring to: once more – the NICE Guidelines recommend that HRT is the first line of treatment for menopausal symptoms over ADs. This is endorsed by all the top gynaecologists, some of whom are engaged in a huge programme of education through GP training, media articles, social media, tweets, conferences and open days – necessary to counter the misinformation and ignorance that has been prevalent for many years since the rapid decline in HRT use following the WHI study. Not any member's opinion – but the current view. Of course it goes without saying this is for women who are medically able to take HRT. There are different treatment options ( including some ADs – which I have pointed out by the way) for those who cannot take HRT: here is a recent consensus statement for non-hormonal treatments for menopausal symptoms:
http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2053369117711646?hootPostID=6690d93930a10b86869c48433ab506e7

I might post it as a separate thread :)

If women ask to take ADs in preference – hopefully there will eventually be a move so that this is not the normal expectation by women and from GPs. Sadly women have often come to expect these (in the first instance) due to years of ignorance and mistreatment by medics. Most women will find once they have tried different HRTs that eventually they feel much better and this will help them through menopause and more importantly beyond – in the many years of oestrogen deficiency they have ahead of them. In some exceptional cases ADs may be needed later as well – and indeed in some cases of extreme depression they may be needed initially – when a woman is in danger – and this is recognised by gynaecologists.

Re whether depression is hormonally led – it is generally accepted  (by gynaes) that when a woman begins to experience anxiety or depression for the first time in her life, just before and during peri-menopause or following menopause when there are no life events that could have triggered it, then this is most likely hormonally driven and therefore a hormonal solution should be tried (properly) in the first instance. A blood test is not necessary and this is endorsed in the NICE Guidelines and recommendations

CLKD – you don't use HRT and I do not pass judgment on you for not doing so nor for not knowing the different types – but please do not criticise (my) responses to Wendy who actually mentions HRT in her first post.  FYI Elleste = a type of oestrogen only HRT. I only looked back (at previous posts)  to save asking her the question whether she was taking progestogen and her earlier posts told me she was using the coil - it didn't make much material difference to how I posted as she had already mentioned her HRT. Had you known this (about Elleste) perhaps your responses to my suggestions might have been different? She also said she had tried ADs but they made her feel worse so naturally I focused on her HRT.

Babyjane – I accept your apology for your initial misunderstanding, but is it really necessary then to pass judgement on other member's posts – ie mine - and pontificate about how I should conduct myself? Surely better to focus on the OP than start an argument and cause unpleasantness/bad feeling? As Annie says – it is the OP whom I also have in mind and this sort of thing can waste time and detract from the poster and her problems. There are a lot of things I could say about how some members post – and have done in the past – but I feel usually it's better to keep  :-X , let it go, and think about the OP. Sometimes a response is needed though ....

As you will see I also offered non-medical suggestions for sites and strategies for dealing with anxiety – one of which you dismissed CLKD because it didn't work for you, but might actually help the OP as we are not talking here about lifelong depression as in your case. In Wendy's situation it is worth her trying a range of strategies to see if they might help.

Wendy I am so sorry that a bit of an argument has happened on your thread and do hope you are not put off! We do what we can and offer what we can, as I said before, on the basis of our expertise, knowledge and/or experience and hope you can accept it all in the spirit in which it is meant and ignore some of the comments! I hope you find these suggestions and advice helpful :)

Hurdity x

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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #20 on: August 30, 2017, 01:50:16 PM »

 :-X

Off to see whether I can see a mention of HRT in Wendy's first post ...........

Actually : nope!  [shoudl have gone to Specsavers?]

I feel bullied again ............. same old, same old and aimed at me - why? 
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #21 on: August 30, 2017, 01:51:13 PM »


Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
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Hi all,

I just wanted to share that I am really struggling at the moment. I feel depressed and anxious most of the time. I have a stressful job and I am feeling that I need to move to a less stressful one. But I have worked years in my field and I worry about if changing my job is the right thing to do. It will mean less money and I am concerned about that.

I wake in the morning feeling tense. I can literally feel my face is tight and I dread the day ahead.

I am eating all the wrong foods. I am so lucky to have a supportive husband though. 

I can't seem to enjoy anything and when I go out I want to come home again. I don't want to socialise but my husband forces me to (in  a nice way) and I do sometimes feel better for a short while. But I love solitude at the moment. Just sitting and reading helps and stroking my cat. But I can't do this for next few years!!

I feel fat and frumpy. Joint aches and knees knackered. I am on Elleste.

Is there anyone who feels similar. I have tried anti depressants in the past but they don't really agree with me and make me feel worse. I am worried about being off sick from work as I feel this may mean that I lose my confidence even more and don't go back. I used to be so confident and now stress about my job and that I am no longer any good at it and if anyone asks my opinion on anything I feel that I am useless and worry what people think of me.

Help!!   
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #22 on: August 30, 2017, 02:06:56 PM »

CLKD - read my post (half way down)!

Elleste = oestrogen only HRT!!!!!!!!!

Yes go to Specsavers!

You are not being bullied - as you well know.....

Hurdity x
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #23 on: August 30, 2017, 02:11:07 PM »

You are missing my point - no where did Wendy mention a coil until you picked it up!  I'm off  :'(
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #24 on: August 30, 2017, 02:28:55 PM »

I haven't missed your point CLKD - you have!

Just to be absolutely clear: Wendy said in her first post on this thread "I am on Elleste".  Once again, this is a type of oestrogen only HRT. The coil is just another part of it - the progestogen part - it doesn't matter that she didn't mention that! I based my responses about HRT and dosing on the fact that she said she is taking it - therefore relevant to the discussion!

Wendy - again I am so sorry that there has been this misunderstanding - I hope you find the comments helpful about HRT that I and several members have given to you in response to your post where you mention the type of HRT you are taking.

Hurdity x
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #25 on: August 30, 2017, 02:31:03 PM »

Hi Wendy. Hugs to you. I have been hit by similar things as it isn't easy. It seems you have a good view of where you are and what helps you though. Just to say it may be worth checking in with your GP again. I had chronic anxiety issues, insomnia (47), regular if erratic periods. I was put on HRT (Ellestre Duet) but within 10 days feel much worse, terrible anxiety, nightmares like I have never had before. Phoned GP and she took me off straight away; within two days I felt much more normal.  Apparently hormones can be too HIGH in peri rather than too low and also some HRT just dosn't suit some people. They won't check my hormones though as apparently they can fluctuate wildly day to day. If I was living near a city I would probably try and go private and get a hold on exactly what my hormones are doing first BEFORE taking any HRT.  Now off HRT for me I get 4-5 ' bad' days just before my period so I am oing to try modifying my diet , getting more exercise, etc Woops kids back. Hugs.
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #26 on: August 30, 2017, 03:39:07 PM »

Apologies  :-X - I missed seeing the drug as HRT  :-\ .........  :-[
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #27 on: August 30, 2017, 04:54:18 PM »

No probs

We all need a :bighug:

Hurdity x
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #28 on: August 30, 2017, 05:20:35 PM »

Hi,

Thanks for all your messages. I seem to have caused quite a stir but I know that all your replies come from a point of view of wanting to offer  advice and when you all have different experiences it is all helpful. I suppose its a bit like childbirth. Everyone has a different experience.

Please accept a hug from me.

Thanks

Wendy65   
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Re: Depression and anxiety and trying to hold down a job
« Reply #29 on: August 30, 2017, 06:57:21 PM »

 :thankyou: Wendy for your understanding and not being put off - things can get a bit emotional at times!

Do let us know what you decide on with your doc -  whatever that may be,  and how you get on!

Yes - just like childbirth - only goes on for a bit longer!

Hurdity x :)
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