My last mammogram was so painful I swore I'd never do one again. In fact I haven't ... but have just started HRT so will have to

will do the Nurofen /Paracetamol trick, thanks CLKD.
But yes, contact CRUSE if you haven't, Dede. My mother died a year and a half ago and it's still absolutely devastating. CRUSE helped a lot. I wish I'd contacted them earlier, as they do have a waiting list for in home visits. But they also set up weekly Samaritan calls as they have a program with them now too.
I actually wrote a blog about losing my mother, I can pm it to you if you like?