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[babyjane]

Thanks for your comments ruthae

threads like these are supportive of one another 

[ruthae]

Good luck with your shopping today, but yourself a little treat 😃

Rx

[Mandz]

Thanks ruthae: just telling myself ally's good in the world and to get myself going

Post you all later xx

[Dyan]

Thinking of you Mandz

[CLKD]

That was 10 years ago when you did your re-training ……. a long time which has not been wasted! 

Little steps.  I got back to shopping by not having to buy stuff, I would wander through the store and worry more about being stopped for shoplifting  ……… and I never let the cupboard run bare so I don't back myself into a corner.  Me, I prefer shopping alone; don't have to justify myself to anyone if I need to come home.

[Mandz]

Hi, well I've done my shopping, and to be honest apart from sausages I've bought nothing to make a decent meal ....

But hey ho, none of us will starve, I must be feeling a bit perkier because I took ruthae said advice and I bought myself two tops-lol!
I also bought my son-as a wee surprise- new bedding, liquorice all sorts print, in asda if you see it, thought it was rather funky and he's a devil for sweets!!! So he's home from his girlfriends tonight

Sunday's I always make roast dinner, haven't done one since beginning of January, and thought I'd maybe do t today....nope.... But maybe next week....

Hugs m xx

[CLKD]

The point is - how did you feel whilst shopping 

[Mandz]

Well I was fine CLKD, just me, a little bit anxious but nothing to write home about 😌

Well me n hubby a just had Sunday dinner ...."big bowl of semolina with a blob of jam"..... U got to laugh 😆 .....kind of feel a bit of a rebel!!

My intention is to tint my hair tomorrow morning- don't think I've ever let my roots get as bad as this either xxx

[CLKD]

Oh haven't had that for years  …… chocolate was my favourite, in Primary School 1 couldn't have 2nd helpings of the chocolate if one didn't like the vanilla semolina  and the Dinner Ladies remembered   

Glad you felt fairly OK!  It will improve!

[Hurdity]

Isn't it a pity a lot of us members on here didn't live nearer each other to give support ( maybe some do)- just to give each other support.... There again a lot of us might not open up as we do on the forum...


Xxx

Hi there Mandz

Someone else suggested this a while back and actually I think it's a great idea - because menopause support groups etc do not seem to exist. I think the main problem is that this forum is just not big enough for there to be enough people in one area who want to meet up - unlike on mumsnet which is massive and I know they have meet-up groups on there. You don't know until you try though !

This forum is brilliant and offers amazing virtual internet support to many -but of course virtual friends cannot be like friends in real life - you cannot replace the warmth and friendship and real hugs with virtual ones - well real ones are a bonus!

I have had good experience from the very limited number of forums I have been on - so I have met, spoken on the phone, become facebook friends with and e-mail several forum members and have (mostly!) not been disappointed! The thing about opening up to members on here Mandz is that in one sense actually you know them more deeply than you would perhaps someone in real life, so that if you did meet someone - you already have that shared bond. Thatls what l've found.

A year or two back a member posted on here that a group of five of them had been chatting together through their menopausal years and she reported that over 5 years most of them had got to meet each other even though they actually lived a long way apart - and I thought that was amazing.

If you want to try it then I suggest you just post a new thread to ask if there is anyone who lives in a particular town or county (if the town is v small!) that might want to meet - and ask them to pm you - obviously we keep our actual detailed location private ( if you prefer) but you never know! Don't get your hopes up because as I said this forum has fewer active members.

Good luck - if you decide you want to try it

Hurdity x

[Mandz]

Thanks CLKD.... Yes it brings me back to childhood school meals too.....ahhhh carefree days xxx

Hurdity: yes that's lovely that some members met up and got on well
              I live in NE. Scotland so some members may not understand my accent lol
             Yes virtual hugs are not the same as real ones.......and although I've had some amazing support, I've felt soooooo lonely, ashamed, sad, self-loathing, pathetic .....mainly scared and pitiful ".........l but being on here reading, and re-reading my thread I've had a lot of comfort from it, because the lovely ladies just " get me" ..... So it would be nice just to speak face-to-face at times

Sorry I've waffled a bit .....again lol xxx

[CLKD]

Would starting up a menopause group with your Surgery, maybe asking the Practice Nurse to run sessions? that way 1 can be a part of a group without giving too much away 

NE Scotland - lots of snow? 

[Mandz]

Don't know if they would agree.... It's always a possibility

No snow where we are .....but 25 miles away or so it's like a different world!,, we can have seriously four seasons in one day, it can change in the blink of an eye..... But it's a beautiful place to live xx

[ruthae]

Hi Mandz
That's brilliant you got out, glad you got some treats too!!  I gave up on the hair dye some time ago, couldn't be bothered with the faff and cost and I love my hair now it is in great condition , and all the young things are having theirs dyed grey now 😃.  But I'm having a blue tint put on on Weds to cheer me up, hair dresser comes to the house so that is easier.

We have tinned rice pudding quite often!! 

Good idea from CKLD def worth asking when you are next there.  shame you are so far away.
I have been wondering what the statistics are for women who suffer more severe symptoms are, though i guess it may be hard to establish as so many are silent. When my GP suggested time off she said should she put 'stress' on my sick note!!  I said why would youbdp that band she said most people don't want to say it is the menopause....so no wonder there are few groups...

Rx

[Mandz]

Hi ruthae

I was a hairdresser up until I was 39.... But I went to evening classes and did voluntary work on my days off to get my foot in the door to do my present job, I would actually really love to teach maths, but I feel times marching on and I can't be bothered with the studying and I like what I do.....maybe in my next life-and as a man 

A friend of mine text earlier to see if I want to go out for lunch tomorrow so I've said yes.... So maybe hair will have to wait another day

Hope this week brings us new happiness ladies xx