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[ruthae]

I needed to have made 10 posts before I could pm - just did that and hey presto a reply button emerged! 

We could add recommendations to the 'Books' tab...?

[Mandz]

Picked up my gel today, and just a quick question, is it one pump per rub in??? Xx

[CLKD]

That's a technical question    ……… could you ring a Pharmacist locally? then let us know 

[Mandz]

I re-read the instructions and I believe it is a pump per rub 

Felt a bit squeamish this morning-I'm presuming it's maybe the change in medication xx

Other than that, hopefully things seem to be a lot calmer with me this last couple of days, and looking back over the last couple of months I'm realising at times I must have been awful/hard work to live with..... And it hurts realising it

I've to phone fri to get an extension on my work leave....

.....and I got a letter in today from physiatric doctor that he's recommended I see a pycologist.....  Got mixed feelings about this all, kinda feel I'm failing myself- if that makes sense!!??!

Xx

[Greenfields]

Mandz you're not failing yourself - you've just had a really tough time. Menopause is also very very hard for some people (as I found out!). Be kind to yourself. Sending lots of hugs xxx 

[Mandz]

Thank you ladies,

I just feel I'm draining folk around me.... I'm trying so hard, don't get me wrong I'm feeling better than last week

Sorry just needed a moan xxxxx

[CLKD]

A Psychiatrist can prescribe and is able to admit patients to hospital when necessary.

A Psychologist can't.  He/she can advise, listen, help people talk through problems with the aim of them finding a way through.  He/she can recommend that the client sees a GP to discuss medication requirements, or referral to other specialities.

It's about aiding the client to find a way to deal with history or moving forwards.  If you are hungry, do you not eat  .  Don't berate yourself, there is no need to tell anyone that you think might not be sympathetic.  I don't tell anyone these days, not many people are on a 'need to know' basis! especially family 

[Mandz]

Thank u CLKD.... Ur words are wise

As I've said before, sometimes just someone else telling me it's "ok" is all I need..... Because I feel people I know say things because they think , that's what I want to hear, rather than them be honest.....whereas on here, we all seem to be honest and open,

What a godsend 🌺

Love m xx

[CLKD]

I'm further down the line than you are!

This is a woman who thought that she would never leave our house again  .  DH walked the dogs, fed the cats, cooked for me, went to work, took my medication with him, travelled home at lunch time to make sure that I took medication and ate …… 3 months B4 I dared set foot outdoors and another 18 B4 I could consider travelling into town for shopping.  I'm the fastest thing leaving a store without a half-filled trolley on this Earth!

Little steps 

[Greenfields]

Mandz where you are now emotionally is not where you will be forever - it just takes time and the right medication and figuring out a routine that works for you. You may feel like you're draining people around you but you're not. You're just seeking reassurance and anybody would in your circumstances - that's what's lovely about this board - a heck of a lot of women have gone through a tough time with menopause so it's a good place to seek support and reassurance.

Honestly, before it all happened to me, I wouldn't have thought that menopause could be so difficult and often the people who are closest to us who don't have any experience or knowledge of dealing with menopause and its impact can be ignorant of what's going on and might not necessarily be able to have the empathy to meet you where you are emotionally ... I really struggled with this when I was ill ... what I needed most was kindness and some of the best people I found who helped me were people who were just quiet and accepted me as I was .. but they aren't always around. Which is why this board and the support you get from it is a good thing! Hugs xxx

[Suzi Q]

Hi I'm 48

Was on citralopram for 5+ years having suffered depression on n off for years!!! Had a hysterectomy 3yrs ago

After my step father passed away Nov 2014 I dipped all of las year.... By October I was struggling, went to doc and told her along with struggling I was having terrible sweats- not during sleep- and constantly tired.......
I was given ellese 1 mg and put on mirtazapiine 45mg

Fortnight or so later was feeling bit worse-got app with other doc.... Put on beta blockers propranolol 80mg

Still not getting there, and really struggling to hold it together at work n home!!!! People now aware that I'm not me and really emotional

Back to doc, told to stick with it......

Three weeks ago saw a poster at work offering 6 counselling sessions for employers in the works toilet, phoned in pure desperation, had 3rd session yesterday ( she suggested this site)

Also Week before that returned to doc ...... Signed off work for 4weeks..... And waiting for psychiatrist appointment..... And given diazepam


I actually don't feel any better..... Yesterday I cried, what seemed like the whole day.... Went to see pharmacy to ask about tablets.... Explained that I'm not getting any better......in fact I was sobbing begging for some kind of help.... She phoned the health centre and duty doc said they were aware of my case.....

I'm just off phone from doctors .... Can't get an appointment but told duty doc will contact me today!!!! I feel like a complete nutcase, like I'm continually hounding the doctor ..... But I honestly just want help, I want to be me with a purpose to my life not just opening my eyes and dreading the day starting

I can't think to shop.....I can't think to do housework ..... I just cry n cry with this horrible churned up feeling in my stomach......

I feel lonely even though I've a couple of friends I've confided in.....
My husband is trying to be understanding but I know it's getting him down...... He works hard and rarely and I mean rarely has there been a meal at home for him, I'm only managing to do the bare essentials of housework, which is upsetting me too.......

I don't want people to see me........ AND IM CRYING ..... AGAIN

OH sweetie pie
By the the things you wrote I can take it your like my son and Mum clinicly deppressd yes?
OK Betas help but they can take up to 3 weeks to work same for Antidepreessants
There are also a lot of bETAS i TAKE THEN on a iregular basis Im on them now I take Inderal 40
See the therapist see the trickcyclist hehehe breath breath breath
Have some sort of goal every day while your off work even if its just to write on here for a bit
Do one thing for one hour to distance yourself
Im pretty sure once they get your pills sorted you will star to feel better
Your not alone I had to give up work post meno for 2 yrs 4mnths after we moved in to a BIG HOUSE my wage was needed and no sick pay in Ozz if you dont work you dont get paid No sick via social services if you have a husband in work you get nothing but we coped you do!
I did 3 yrs of recog therapy best thing I ever did and liek you I was not only 12/000 miles away
But my Mum died at 60 and there by hangs a tale I wonder will I die at 60 Im 62 and think
Mum dead baby brother dead dad died January Im billy no mates whens the shoe going to drop
\YOUR not alone it will get better not this week or next maybe not even in a month but it will x

[Mandz]

Thank you again ladies

I'm having an iffy day today... Just can't be bothered with anything  and I've put on the tv and all the "upbeat" people are annoying me.....I want to be like them, but trying to be positive, I'm counting my blessings 🌼

CLKD u sound such a strong woman now, I read a lot that you post and I for one take on board a lot of what you say:thank you so much xxx

Green fields: yes I do need reassurance, my confidence has totally been battered this past couple of years, thank you xxx

Love m xx

[Mandz]

Ohhh suzi, I'm so saddened to read you're post, I'm sending much hugs, greif and thoughts are really hard and it creeps up at times you least expect it

I'm off my beta-blockers, though I think my ibs has flared since stopping but it's ok, it's bearable

I'm on diff meds now....fingers crossed xxx

[Mandz]

Not good today.... Really anxious, still lying in my bed, really tired and stomach is churning up

Trying so hard to be fine, hope it's just " one of those days"

[Justjules]

Yes Mandz, it will be just one of those days.....feel heaps better today than I did yesterday...don't know why each day is so different. Be kind to yourself. My therapist has just told me to just look after 'me' and if it means being selfish for once, then so be it. We are the only ones who can make ourselves better at the end of the day. Give yourself some space....sometimes a duvet day is all we need. Hope you feel better soon.