Hi Lizab
I too was 39 when all this rubbish started and it took me a while to realise what was going on. I started with foggy head and not able to think straight, then I had a panic attack during a cycle event and thought "where did that come from", then things went on from there. Anxiety, legthargy, night sweats etc. I went back and forward to the GP, everytime telling her it was to do with my cycle, that I'd be fine for 2 weeks then it would all start again, month after month. I tried hypnotherapy, mindfulness, meditation, yoga retreats, you name it I've done it. My other half is demented with the amount of money I have spent trying to make myself better! It is so frustrating to say the least. My kids are also young and thought I had passed the anxious stages having suffered from PND with both of them. Now on researching it would appear your more likely to suffer peri-menopause if you have been suceptable to PMT or PND which I have had both.
What stage are you at with your cycle? Do you still get periods? I have a Mirena Coil and get break through bleeding every 25 days. I have found that reflexology is good for helping with the anxiety, but have yet to find anything else to help with all the other symptoms.
Keep in touch, it would seem we are going through the same things. I am about to start on low dose HRT patches this week.
Take care and keep strong
WMLB