I finally got my blood test and mri (jaw) results 
the menopause ones were done but just because he was doing a group of blood tests
FSH 5.3
LH 14.4
Oestradiol 1754 pmol/L
The things that have show up are low ferritin, low iron saturation, low vitamin D and low parathyroid hormone. My calcium was ok though
Having a low parathyroid can cause problems with calcium and the symptoms are
Symptoms can range from quite mild (tingling in the hands, fingers, and around the mouth) to more severe forms of muscle cramps.  The most severe symptoms are tetany (severe muscle cramping of the entire body)
probably clutching at straws again.  if my clacium had been low too then it would have been more obvious it could be that
Seeing maxilliofacial man on monday but the jaw mri was fine so he is still sending me for a brain and neck mri