Hi Jellybaby - I had a vaginal hysterectomy and anterior repair just over a year ago for uterine prolapse and cystocele. I had put the op off for as long as possible but it was beginning to affect my daily life - so uncomfy - and as I got older (I'm 61 now) I was becoming worried about having a total prolapse and emergency surgery.
The actual operation itself was far better than I feared. I had it on the Monday lunchtime and left hospital Wednesday evening. I did have to have a catheter for the first week though as my bladder was bruised and went into shock so wouldn't empty on it's own. That too is nowhere near as bad as it sounds.
Is it the English Hysterectomy site you've been on? They have a section called prolapse princesses which you can find if you put it in the search box on the site. I found it useful. I had a total of twelve weeks off work but I must admit that it is only really in the last couple of months that my energy levels have returned to almost normal. My anterior repair has not been too successful due to weak tissue type but it is better than it was and I am under the care of an excellent pelvic floor specialist who I see every six weeks to check on my progress re strengthening the pelvic floor. I have to be careful not to lift anything too heavy as this can cause further prolapses - the worst one being vaginal vault. I'm not sure that lifting with weights would be advisable to be honest.
I think that you have to weigh up how much the condition is affecting your life. I know that following prolapse surgery some exercises are definitely not thought to be a good idea because, once you have had a hysterectomy, the pelvic floor can become weakened.
I have had some bowel problems too following the op which is quite common. The bowel tends to sort of drop down into the space left by the uterus which in some women can cause difficulty in emptying the bowel or, as for me, emptying too often!!
As for the sex question. The vagina will be shorter after the op but should still function ok. If you love the deep orgasms then you will find it strange at first that these don't happen. Much of the deep sensations are from the uterus contracting which obviously doesn't happen after a hysterectomy. You will still get the other sensations from vagina and clitoris obviously but lots of women don't realise that the deeper sensations wont be there.
All I can say is this situation wont go away and definitely wont get better and overall I am much more comfortable but it can take quite a while to get back to normal. This is the recovery guide from the hysterectomy UK website - it's worth sticking to. You only get one chance to heal!
http://gallery.mailchimp.com/a5692c6457e86f0e2182630fa/files/sbs_recovery.pdf?utm_source=Free+Hysterectomy+Booklet&utm_campaign=30c61c525a-Booklet-14&utm_medium=emailTaz x