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[Taz2]

Where do you run to when he's ill? Have you got a friend you stay with?

I have a neighbour who is anorexic and she is a professional chef but now training as a nutritionist. She has to go into hospital usually around twice a year when her weight drops below 5 stone so that they can build her back up. Her children (now grown up) are very understanding but they had a very difficult childhood. Strange,I always feel, that her main interest is food and getting others to eat well when she wants to make herself as small as possible herself.

Taz x

[CLKD]

Obviously …….. dial 999 in the first instance.

Anorexia/bulimia has only been described in recent years Honeybun because the medical profession do like to pigeon hole people.  It has been a non-eating phenomena for 100s of years.  I was anorexic [1955] before it was 'fashionable' in the 'true' sense of the word i.e. fear of food not fear of body image ……… but in order to give patients treatment it had to be compartmentalised.  My friend is a psychiatric nurse on a young persons' eating disorder unit and gets annoyed at the very narrow 'compartments' that this potentially fatal condition is called. [ My sister is also a psychiatric nurse …….. apparently the family were aware of my problem but it was never talked about.  ] - caring family then 

As Psychiatric Services are at the bottom of the monetary pile it is difficult to get urgent referrals for assistance. 

[CLKD]

Taz - that is very common.  Women in particular want to nurture and care for their children via food …… whilst avoiding putting on weight themselves. 

Most emitophobes will avoid the kitchen ….

I run into the garden  where I can't hear what's happening indoors.  Fortunately not required very often as we aren't 'sicky' people    NO WAY would I tell anyone that I am in regular contact with ………. they might laugh 

[CLKD]

Interesting: "The word ANOREXIA means “appetite loss of nervous origins”. "

It goes on to remark : "Anorexia Nervosa is a condition of weight loss which is not secondary to a physical condition …… "

However, throughout the rest of the article it uses "anorexia" and not "anorexia Nervosa" ……… which is incorrect as it gives the wrong impression of anorexia as a condition.  These 2 are separate issues  picked up by the media and medical profession/s and joined for convenience: usually by non-sufferers   â€¦â€¦â€¦ bulimia being separate from the above.  But people when desperate will combine nervosa with bulimia to achieve an aim. 

I rest my Case.

[honeybun]

Unfortunately just dialling 999 was not enough .

I was advised to give him aspirin if we had any ...I did but it was the dispersable kind so I had to spoon it into his mouth and hope he could keep it down.
We have to be prepared to just step up and not run.

I think the point I'm trying to make is that sometimes our partners enable us to stay inside our little bubbles where we should be encouraged to do things that challenge us just a bit. My hubby knows I could cope if anything happened, it would be very hard but living in that bubble where we avoid everything that even causes a minor wobble helps no one.


Honeybun
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[Limpy]

I never lost having periods though [bugga  ].

The good news is your anorexia obviously wasn't severe enough to stop your periods,
you obviously have always managed to eat enough to remain pretty healthy.

[CLKD]

Of course.  My frame is light weight, so 6st and a bit was OK.  I worked in a Hospital ……… on the go all the while with rarely a lunch break, paid for that later on too 

Some people are enabled by their partners 'allowing' habits to remain.  Some partners walk away when the sufferer eventually recovers because they no longer feel useful or lose that form of control …….. I have offered my Husband 'out' many times as we are aware of the pitfalls.  But with a good GP and Dental Surgeon we are working round any problems, as DH says often 'it is what it is' so we don't expect too much but enjoy the 'good' days 

[CLKD]

I feel a Thesis coming on 

[honeybun]

No, just a dollop of common sense, don't you think.

Honeybun
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[Taz2]

Where a true phobia is concerned though I don't think common sense comes into it. Article here about a woman's fight to get better http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/features/how-i-beat-my-fear-of-vomiting-eating-frightens-me-10003913.html

Taz x

[honeybun]

But she was helped and is coping, a little better everyday. She, in her own way decided enough and started to reclaim her life.

The common sense is to try and cope and not give in.

It's so damned hard but sometimes there is no choice.

Not that that makes it any easier the next time 


Magic Wand anyone.


Honeybun
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[CLKD]

The headline doesn't follow her story correctly as she hasn't beaten the problem: she is still on a very restricted diet if her words are true - pity they don't spell the word correctly too!

There is NO common sense surrounding phobias, whether it be of spiders, buttons, vomiting, blood …… there is logic but this logic flies out the window when the fear takes over.  Dr Raj Prausad [sp] began the treatment protocol that she is following ……. he offered me a place at the Maudsley many years ago [? 1990s] but I was unable to travel there due to the phobia. 

I have tried to re-claim my Life but once the fear begins, any logic is gone and I am a shivering wreck in the corner of a room until the emergency medication kicks in.  With the BB I can cope better most days but I know how quickly the fear can paralyis me. 

[Taz2]

It's called Emetophobia unless there are two spellings or was it a different word?

Taz x 

[Limpy]

pity they don't spell the word correctly too!

I think Taz is correct, they are spelling it correctly. I couldn't find a definition of Emitophobia anywhere when I looked.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emetophobia

Emetophobia is an intense, irrational fear or anxiety pertaining to vomiting. This specific phobia can also include
subcategories of what causes the anxiety, including a fear of vomiting in public, a fear of seeing vomit, a fear of watching the action of vomiting or fear of being nauseated.

www.emetophobia.com

[Scampi]

It is definitely spelled emetophobia - same root as the correct medical term for vomiting (emetemis).