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[honeybun]

Still don't think it's fair CLKD to be honest.

Everyone but everyone gets fed up doing the same thing over and over and over.

I cook for my mother and hubby knows when I've had enough and steps in until I feel like cooking for us. Normally a couple of days does the trick, but it's so very nice to have a bit of a break and a real treat too.

Your hubby goes above and beyond so....


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[karenw]

I'm the same.  I have no interest in cooking and no culinary skills either.  I eat to live and would be perfectly happy to take a daily pill containing all the nutrients my body needs.  I cook my own food (very simple stuff) and my husband cooks his.

As for Dandelion's post, I read it all.  I had some difficulty in places but it read more like a morbid fascination to me rather than a phobia.

BTW  Gut Reaction, founded in 1993 pre-internet, still exists but as an online forum now: http://gutreaction.myfreeforum.org/forum2.php

[CLKD]

Crikey you was brave to read it, my stomach began to heave after the first couple of lines. I did think that it wouldn't bother me as I feel OK this evening  …… a separate thread maybe 

I keep to safe foods even now, although if my anxiety is not present we do eat 'out' sometimes.  I can drop into a cafe too on a good day but if anxious = upset gut then I return home.  We don't plan our meals ahead by more than a couple of hours in case I 'go off' what has been suggested. 

[Limpy]

As for cooking, I don't need to. I could if I had to. 

No CLKD you don't have to cook.
Why on earth would you, when you have somebody running around after you.
I seem to remember you couldn't be bothered cooking even a bit for him when he was unwell.
Fair enough, we are all different, I quite like looking after my OH when he's not feeling too good.
Mind you he's had to do more than his fair share at the moment 

[CLKD]

OUCH 

[honeybun]

I agree, that's not a phobia as I understand or have it 

I agree Limpy, I like looking after my old man too and he does take his turn when he knows I'm fed up which means such a lot.


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[CLKD]

Honeybun - you knew what you meant  " that's not a phobia" - are you able to explain more clearly?

I can tell you this: that I have NEVER met a woman with vomiting phobia that has willing had children.  Ever.  And I have been in touch with several hundreds of sufferers over the years.  I know of a couple of ladies whose contraception failed - one who put her child into Care and other whose husband took over when necessary.  Her child then went onto develop the phobia …… and he never got drunk, was rarely involved with children …….

[honeybun]

I have had a fear of being sick or seeing others being sick since I was a small child.

I think that a phobic is someone who really doesn't want details of amounts etc as D said but I guess we are all different

 I wanted a family and told myself I would cope, and I did. I also coped with baby sick, toddler sick, teenage sick.....why, because they were my kids and I love them more than anything in the world and would do anything for them. My hubby helped out when he was there but he worked away so it was down to me.

To put a child in care because of a sickness phobia is one of the most selfish and sad things I have ever heard. Truly awful.

I hate sickness with a total passion, it terrifies me...but....family is different. It's hard but doable. If we ran from everything that scared us then life would be very hard. Sometimes you have to face it no matter how hard.....and it's very hard.


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[getting_old]

I could have written so many of the posts here. I'm so sorry that others are suffering but have to confess that it feels good to finally know I'm not the only one who has a problem. I've been absolutely terrified of people vomiting since I was a child and it was a major factor in my decision to not have children. That said if I had ended up having them I'm sure I would have coped. I would have just had to explain my phobia to DH - he still doesn't really know although I have hinted at it and when he has been ill I haven't exactly been supportive. In fact I have hidden in another room shivering with my fingers in my ears wondering where I could drive to.

I hate crowded places, avoid drunks, and limit flying unless absolutely necessary. I think my phobia started when I was young and my mother was screaming and crying when she was sick. It absolutely terrified me. I was never close to my mother so we never discussed it but to be fair to her she always looked after me when I was sick, so she coped despite her obvious fears, and I'm not sure I would have managed as well as she did.

Now there's just DH and me and I constantly worry about how I would cope if he was ill. He seems to think I'll cope, but I'm not confident. I just hope he's right. I also keep asking him if he's OK because a few years ago we toured in the US and there were a number of occasions where he needed the loo quickly. He didn't think much of it, although he was very grateful to Walmart (stores with facilities open 24/7!), but it really upset / terrified me. Eventually I worked out it was the local water, which I had avoided, so we only drank bottled stuff after that. Despite that I still worry if he eats or drinks something different and he has asked me not to keep asking if he's feeling OK.

[Taz2]

I'm not emetophobic as I can deal ok with vomit as long as it's not from a bug. If it's because someone is ill from, say, a head injury or from being drunk then I can deal with it no problem (let's face it none of us enjoy clearing up after such an episode) but if it's from a bug then I get really anxious about catching it. When my children were all small this was something that happened frequently as it does before the immune system properly kicks in at around age 7. I worry when people are staying that I will get ill while they are here because I would feel so bad about passing something on to them. Daft really.

I'm curious as to how those of you who are true emetophobes do cope when you have a tummy bug and whether, afterwards, you feel stronger because the very worst thing happened but you survived and the world didn't collapse. Also, have any of you had any "treatment" to try to enable you to live a more normal life? I know from reading here http://www.ocduk.org/emetophobia that it's the sixth most common phobia and that it is one of the more difficult to treat.

Taz x 

[honeybun]

I think for me the run up is worse than the actual event. If I'm actually sick then I cope and just get on with it.
Seeing others throw up is awful. I get the shakes and want to run away.
I have had hypnotherapy which didn't work. Also had counselling, again didn't work.

I guess like all phobias, there are degrees of what you can deal with.


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[CLKD]

getting-old I could have written that, it's like a mirror image.  I had my 1st panic attack aged 3, I was diagnosed as anorexic at age 5 but no one asked me why  - Mum was told that I would 'grow out of it' ….. but I didn't.  When I was 8 I was ill and asked Mum to call the Doctor because I knew that my fear and reactions were out of proportion but she told me that 'the Doctor would laugh if I called him out' - well if a Doctor would laugh then so would non-medical people so I NEVER told anyone. 

If DH coughs in the night I tense up all over and give him a nudge to see that he's OK.  When he has been ill I've run, with fingers in ears to the end of the garden.  Working on the premise that if he lived alone he would have to cope.  I could go on …….

When my GP prescribed BBs they got rid of the constant feeling of 'going to vomit' - I began to have a Life and now if anxiety is not present, we are able to go out to eat.  I won't be shut in a crowded place i.e. we have never flown, I won't go into trains/coaches/theatres - a friend is playing locally this week and I can't go  even thought I love him to bits and haven't seen him for 15 years, even though he lives in the next village. 

Honeybun you've hit the nail on the head - there are 'degrees' ……. having resurrected this thread I had nightmares last night 

[honeybun]

Occasionally though emergencies happen and it's just not possible to run to another room or to the end of the garden.
It's amazing though just what you can do if you absolutely have to. Afterwards you can have a meltdown, but when needs must we step up.

In my case it was when hubby had a heart attack. Running away was not an option.

I think that all of us with phobias can and do if we need to.

At the very least we have to be prepared.

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[Taz2]

In the link I posted CLKD it says that sufferers are often misdiagnosed with an eating disorder when it is really the fear of eating something which will lead to vomiting. I guess this is what happened to you. It is one of the more difficult OCD traits to "cure".

Taz x

[honeybun]

I always thought anorexia was a control thing. I never considered that perhaps it not anorexia but emitophobia for some people.

It's certainly not that for me, but it's very interesting.


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