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[honeybun]

I think most of us have some issues concerning our pasts so some extent. I have tried so very hard to parent differently to how I was parented latterly.
I had a happy childhood it was not until my late teens that there were problems. My dad who I adored died on my 19th birthday after years of ill health. He left me with a woman who could not cope with anything practical. She could not even deal with bills....dad did all that. It's not until recently that I have discovered that I carry a lot of anger and resentment around with me after all those years.
I resent that I had to take on and run a household. I resent that I don't think I actually grieved for my dad and my mother fell apart. I resent that my elder sister thought she had to step into my mother's shoes and run my life. I do know that if things had been different then I would have made other choices.
What can you do though. Accept and move on its what I have chosen and try to make sure my kids have a better time than I did.


Honeyb
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[CLKD]

Oh what a shock!     .......... my sister although younger feels she can boss me around  which is why I don't meet with her, I could kill her ...... we do come to blows, physically - not adult is it 

[honeybun]

Sister and I get on ok and have not come to blows since I was a teenager.

I however have a very long memory and a lot of unresolved issues. A psychiatrist would have a field day with me 

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[Ju Ju]

Dear Honeybun,

You don't need a psychiatrist. They might be able to tell you what's wrong, but how to treat it? Read your post again. You know what's wrong......'I have a very long memory and a lot of unresolved issues.' I think you know deep down what needs to be done. Letting the pain go, forgiveness of them and yourself. Everyone has a different experience of life and everyone suffers in some way. I suggest you get together with your sister and say you care about her, but when she says/does ......, you feel..... Tell her you would so love to have a rewarding relationship with her.

I was not very close to my sister. She made judgemental remarks. I felt she didn't approve of me and my choices in life. I didn't hear from her for several weeks and assumed she was being difficult. Then my parents phoned to say she was terminally ill. My Mum said she didn't think it a good idea that I contact her for a while. I followed my gut feelings and phoned immediately. I'm glad I did. We never discussed the past. It didn't matter anymore. I had those few months of friendship and did whatever she would let me do for her. The moral of my story is don't make assumptions. Give her and yourself a chance. Ju Juxx

[CLKD]

Assumptions can cause problems as can family 'history' which are often myths, passed down through the generations ......

[CLKD]

It doesn't take long for it to return ………..  didn't have a good eating day yesterday, apparently - had breakfast as 'usual', a bun mid-morning as 'usual', late lunch which I probably ate too fast - resulting in mid-afternoon wind as we were travelling …….. then my head felt woozy  ……. so I couldn't eat much last night …….. DH is busy preparing chicken with rice to 'get me going' again 

[honeybun]

You are very lucky CLKD that you have someone who takes care of you so well.

If I tell hubby that I don't feel well he is good for about an hour and then he forgets. Unless I am in bed type of ill then his way to deal with things is just to get on with things.  It rubs off and I have become more like it over the years and don't tell him much to be honest.



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[CLKD]

My Dad was the same, he could look after any one other than family members …….. and if Mum was in bed he would ignore her completely  ……..

Chicken and rice - gone 

[grumpy2008]

Hope you are feeling better, CLKD  . Your OH sounds very supportive - what a star!

[CLKD]

  he is.  Since 1970 ……..

Managing to eat - fruit with a cuppa now

[CLKD]

Is anyone able to tell me which part of the digestive system is below the belly button area …….. I seem to feel nausea lower down than where I believe my stomach to be  ……….

Fortunately when I was in the bathroom at 12.11 thinking I was going to be ill - and wasn't, Himself was sleeping 

[honeybun]

It's the sigmoid (sp) colon CLKD.

More likely to be wind down there. Your tummy is much further up.

When was the last time you actually vomited.
It's amazing how emetaphobes just don't.

Would you not want hubby to be with you if you were.


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[CLKD]

I would need someone there ……. 'cos I get SO scared.

Stomach is where exactly, under my left rib/breast area?  Indigestion seems to be in the middle chest, chin, lips, but not down my arms and not often.

When I had bad wind we could watch it's passage down the system, it would rumble along like a serpent underneath the skin  - I would lay in the bath water and we would chart it's path ………

I've looked in my very good Dorling Kindersley book about anatomy but it doesn't show which part of the digestive system is in comparison with what's in the various areas of discomfort.  Pity my body isn't glass I could see exactly what is going on!

[Taz2]

Does this help http://www.bbc.co.uk/schools/gcsebitesize/science/add_aqa/tissues_organs/organs_in_animalsrev3.shtml?

Taz x

[honeybun]

So if you didn't need someone last night then you knew you weren't going to be sick.
Tummy for me is around the middle area, and there is no mistaking when things are going to go wrong. The extra saliva in the mouth being one sign.

It's just one of these things that come on and you just know.


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