I have just my 20 year old son left at home. I'm my own worst enemy whereas I've brought my children up not helping around the house. But it works both ways. I've never gone in their rooms without asking , giving them full privacy, likewise they've never gone in my room without permission. So, if it's not in the wash basket, it doesn't get washed. He cleans his own room (always a dirty tip in there) but we get on well.
I don't do stress, and many times I've been told by people I'm too laid back, but that's just the way I am. I'm gobsmacked if he offers me a coffee !
I hope you're feeling better now, we have hormones playing us about left , right and centre and it's better to let your tears flow than keeping them back