Jenster, my heart goes out to you as I too spent two years being told I had possible MS and therefore know how frightening it is. The 'not knowing' is worse. Like you, my symptoms were not the ones we stereo typically associate with the menopause - at the time I had no flushes (still don't), anxiety nor dryness. I had terrible back pain, tingling extremities, dizziness, hideous fatigue, crawling sensations and palpitations. I saw so many consultants and had numerous MRIs and each time I got another 'normal' result, the more anxious and self doubting I became. Luckily a switched on new neurologist immediately said 'peri menopause' and, though I am far from my old self still, things have got much easier. HRT helped, though this forum - and switching GPs - was by far the best medicine!
I really hope you find relief soon too x