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[CLKD]

Not a holiday exactly - we have a Funeral [his side] to attend so will be leaving on Thursday morning, have booked into a Hotel [can't remember where] so have to sort 'what to wear' …… don't know what the dress code is likely to be.  DH has tried on his pair of black trousers and says they are tight  - ish ……. so won't go shopping for comfy trousers  .  So that will make me feel queasy especially if my anxiety is up. 

[littleminnie]

The last few funerals I've been to I've worn black trousers, top and jacket/coat.

[CLKD]

All black  .  If anyone attends mine in black I'll haunt them 

I have sand colours with a pale lilac top ………. don't know how cold it will be in Church though so will probably drive by the previous day for a look-see.

[littleminnie]

Not all black, just the trousers. They look smart and are the part.

[Taz2]

It may be worth asking about what to wear. The funeral is, after all, about the wishes of the dead person or the close family so it's polite to dress as they ask I reckon. I've been to far too many this year but it's been interesting in that the dress code has ranged from beach party attire to formal, all black.

What would make you feel queasy - DH's trousers being too tight or did I get that wrong? I probably misread it!!

Taz x

[honeybun]

Unless expressly requested I don't wear  black to a funeral. It's mostly grey that I wear but things are changing.
As Taz says, find out what is required.
It won't be that cold at this time of year. Do you have the reception or....purrvy as they say in Scotland....to go to. I hate that bit.....you never know whether you have to look cheerful, or mournful or what.
I'd rather come home to be honest.
On occasions I just go to the cemetery and that's it.


Honeybun
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[CLKD]

Knowing that DH's trews being too tight - might be too tight 

The wake is about remembering.  The fun and the sad.  I'd rather skip the Church Service and head straight to the 'wake'. 

As we are there for a couple and a half days, DH has found some antique shops to visit. 

[Taz2]

I must admit I always try to go to the Wake as it's a way of remembering the person and their life rather than their death. It gave me a warm feeling inside when I saw how many people came back for both my mum and dad's Wake. It was lovely to meet up with friends of theirs I hadn't seen for a long time and to hear stories about my mum and dad. Although it sounds strange we have some lovely photos of everyone together.

I hope it's not too stressful CLKD.

Taz x

[CLKD]

   we had a selection of photos when M in L died: from when she was in school and throughout - got people talking after the Service. 

[honeybun]

I hate wakes....some I have been too is just an excuse for people to get drunk.

Honeybun
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[CLKD]

Is that a habit North of the Border maybe 

At least that hasn't happened in any that I have attended  -  too much respect for those left behind  and as people have to buy their own booze …….

[honeybun]

Think Irish....no disrespect to the Irish.....cross the sea a wee bit and then there are us.
Alcohol is generally provided up to a point.....as is the full sit down three course meal. Really don't like a wake at all.
I would rather just turn up and pay my respects....then leave.

Honeybun
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[CLKD]

Down here we tend to lay on a buffet-type 'do' - if not many people turn up after the Service we know we've got 'pack up' for the week  .  I wouldn't attend a full meal …….. because often here it's a Service, then Crem., then back to the wake so a meal would spoil.

[honeybun]

It's done in a hotel CLKD.

I just think it's a thing for family to be honest but that a personal choice. It's nice for people to get together to celebrate someone's life.

It's just not what I've seen here.


Honeybun
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[CLKD]

For us, having moved far away, it's nice to see people at a wake [my parents were professionals so well known  ]. So lots of people come to pay their respects and catch up with my News ;-)