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[warwick01]

Hi Ladies, thank you all for your help and advice.

I remember when I visited my GP at 51 with physical symptom like flushes, insomnia etc.....and she asked if I was suffering with Anxiety/Depression which at that time I wasn't. I will be 56 in January and oh my god the anxiety/depression have become overwhelming  I left my job 6 weeks ago due to anxiety dizziness and that is adding to my stress as Ive always worked.

I continue on 3 pumps of estrogel with sep northisterone  each month. It's getting to the point now where I make any excuse not to leave home, I have lost my friends because people don't seem to understand what I'm going through. My husband has been great but Im sure he wishes I was the women he married 9 years ago.

Please, please tell me will this get better or is there worse to come? My GP is a young women and only appears (as others) to think meno consists of hot flushes, night sweats.

So fed up today.... W

[CLKD]

I had to grieve for stuff I used to do and what I eventually had to give up 
I had to work hard to get my anxiety under control, fortunately I had a GP who didn't give up on me 
Talk to your DH.  Ask him how he feels - mine wanted me to be happy again ........ and his attitude now is 'it is what it is.  we deal with it as we go along'

I halved our C.mas card list  - I stopped expecting others to understand.  Now they take me as they find me and I don't get attached in the same way. 

[honeybun]

I find as I get older the less bothered I become of how people see me. If they dont like it then they don't have to stick around. I don't make many excuses, I just say no thanks and that's it. Perhaps as time goes on I will want to be more social but for the moment I try to make the most of what I have.

My rational brain tells me that the feelings of anxiety and panic have never harmed me yet no matter how uncomfortable they are. I do attempt to let things just wash over me which actually works sometimes. Difficult though.

Things will get better, just not all at once.

Honeyb
x

[babyjane]

I have decided to stop saying 'yes' to please others and then regretting it or letting them down.  I have also decided not to say 'no' and cause resentment.

I am going to try saying 'I'll think about it and let you know this afternoon/tomorrow/ next week whichever is appropriate to what is being asked.  That means I am not put on the spot as I panic and then when the panic wears off I feel more rational.  This will give me breathing space without hurting me or others feelings. Hopefully family/friends will accept the response. I haven't tried it yet.

[karin]

Definately hormones ladies, since stopping hrt the plunge in hormones had a really horrid effect on me. Personally im not for antidepressants, fresh air and excercise is really wonderful, a small gym programme or an excercise or dance class is so beneficial. eating well and cultivating the company  of friends helps. Counting blessings and having small positve goals all help.

[Dyan]

his attitude now is 'it is what it is.  we deal with it as we go along'

That's exactly how my OH sees it with me CLKD.
When I get into my rut I find it hard to realise that's how he feels.
He just wants me to be happy- bless him 

[CLKD]

Yep.  Better now I've eaten ……. but will be wired in the morning before Mum rings 

[karenja]

Hi I can relate too lately feeling spaced out, so bad haven't heard my desk phone in work ring as I've been in another world colleagues laugh and think I'm loosing it I'm sure but it scares me, also so tense with anxiety chest is very tight feels hard to breath and I fear the worst heart attack, stroke scary stuff just wonder how much stress the body can take, I'm nearly 54 far too yoing to go yet sorry for sounding dramatic x

[caz24]

Karenja, I wonder about that too, how much stress the body can take and I don't think it's dramatic at all to worry about that. I think about heart attack and stroke and worry about every pain that I have and I've even considered taking the 75mg of aspirin that gets spoken about but then I worry about that, what if it does more harm than good? I feel so uptight and stressed sometimes and my mood can literally change within seconds, it can be exhausting. x

[CLKD]

Stress is 'normal' - fight/flight response. However we have nothing to flee from these days, no sabre tooth tigers which is where it stems from.  I seem to be on the edge of anxiety all the while  so when I do anything that I enjoy without feeling anxious is a bonus - I stand and enjoy it!

A Psychologist once told me that a panic attack can only last 20 mins at the most - well my longest was 3 days so I ditched her  …….. I HATE the restrictions it can cause 

[Millykin]

20 mins! No wonder you ditched Her CLKD, she had obviously never had a real one like some of us! X

[CLKD]

I think she was the same one who would quote from various books doing the rounds, I would tell her which page and who was the author  : like if is written down and published, it makes it real    -  nope!

[Millykin]

Yip they and GPs can be good at that we are human and our illness do not always follow text books
X

[karenja]

Hi feeling anxiety yet again my chest is so tight its horrible I know most of you can relate, Carol24, I had to ring an ambulance twice as my chest pains/panic was so bad and when I had the chest pains they asked me to chew on an asprin when they were on route, so whenever I feel any sort of chest pain now I take a dissolving asprin, whether that is doing me any good Im not sure x

[CLKD]

Does it calm you down?  If you are having to chew aspirin daily then you need to talk with your GP as aspirin can cause bleeding in the gut!  How about Rescue Remedy ……...