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[Kathleen]

Hello ladies, can anyone relate to this or is it just me? I feel so anti-social these days, despite using patches I still suffer from flushes and the occasional night sweat that wakes me up, as a consequence I am often tired and irritable. I am finding it so difficult to be with people, everyone gets on my nerves and I keep thinking I just want to be left alone. I've always been a friendly type of person, chatty and generally interested in what everyone has to say but now it all seems like such an effort and I can't be bothered. I'm starting to panic that this is the new post menopausal me and that I'm set to become a miserable old battle axe! I feel I've changed so much since the menopause hit, I barely recognise myself at times.

Is anyone else struggling with feeling anti social and if so how do you cope?

Thanks for reading this ladies, sorry for the moan and wishing you all well.

K.   

[daisie]

hello Kathleen ..not been on here for some time coming across your comment I had to reply I can say I am going through the exact same thing iv got so antisocial cannot be bothered with people I have to force myself to socialise these days iv just told my partner to go out I just want to be on my own iv been like this a long time now since being in menopause I used to be an uptown girl full of life and partying how iv changed its not good to be like this but I cant find a way out im not on hrt just amitriptyline the anxiety is bad im having a bad day today just cant be bothered with anything  I just keep hoping its all going to go away and feel a bit normal x daisie

[honeybun]

Don't think I'm anti social as such just a lot more picky as to who I want to spend my time with.
Most of the time I'm quite happy to be with just hubby. Too tired to go out much at night and throw anxiety into the mix and 

I enjoy my daughter's company and enjoy when my son comes to visit. It's my and my and my mother's birthday later this month. We are within three days of each other. We always used to have a bbq but now I don't bother. It meant mixing with family members that I don't actually like that much so I choose not too. I know my family are less than impressed and I imagine there is a lot of talking behind my back but at the risk of sounding about five....It's my birthday and i will do what I want to  .......So that's what I mean about being picky.


Honeyb
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[Joyce]

I choose my social activities very carefully these days. Believe it or not, I'm quite a quiet soul, despite my numerous posts on here 

Hubby & I have always preferred our own company & are comfortable in each other's company. Don't go to many parties or social events, not us. I've been classed as a snob as a result in the past. Well if being quiet makes me a snob, so be it.

[honeybun]

Oh CG. You do make me feel better. That's exactly what has been said of me in the past.
The older I get the quieter I get. I just have no inclination to party these days. In jammies by 10 and in bed by 11.
New year past we had daughter and her boyfriend just after the bells. It was nice but by about 1:00am I really wanted to go to bed. The thing that really made me laugh was my little dog.. She kept going to bed and then getting up again and looking at me in disgust. She wanted us to go to bed and put the lights out.. 

I really don't care what people think....I do what I want.....except for my mother and then I do what I have to.


Honeyb
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[honeybun]

Even the dog gets on my nerves at times. She is a licker....even worse a night licker.

I am trying to sleep which is never easy and the dog is slurping away. Drives me nuts   

I think we just have to go with how we feel at the moment. By the time we are mid 60s we will be ready to re-join society and will be party animals....  ....dressed in purple.


Honeyb
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[Joyce]

 

My brother says as we age we appreciate the finer, more important things in life & we know what a good party is!  Hope for me becoming a party animal yet! 

[honeybun]

I'm still waiting CG, but I live in hope 


Honeyb
x

[Limpy]

I'me not struggling with being anti social.
Sure I should be but..........................

[Ju Ju]

 I'm not so much anti-social, as picky. I like to be around people who I feel comfortable with. I've no interest in being around people who are looking for an argument or have a need to be right.

[caz24]

Sparkle, same here. I'm also perimenopausal, no HRT or anything. I think if everyone's getting on my nerves now what will it be like further down the line. I'll be a hermit! I can't even be bothered to make arrangements to see close friends. I want to be alone!! x

[groundhog]

Yes me too - hate social events.  Dread getting invites .  Not good I know.  To make it worse my husband is very sociable and loves any sort of do.  It causes problems. Trouble is more time you spend alone the less you want to mix but as we have said,  time to please ourselves not everyne else.
Xx

[CLKD]

When we were students and finding our feet in the World we did the parties - we cooked one night, then someone else cooked at the weekend and then …….. when we moved here we did it for a while until panic attacks took over and I really couldn't be sociable at all.  We enjoy our own company.  We share interests.  We have special friends not often seen but we pick up with as necessary.

We have moved away from our 'group' of student friends and as we prefer holidaying together, don't mix even then whereas our neighbours choose different friends to holiday with each year ………. they'll learn 

[rebecca]

I am glad I have read that someone else suffers from this.

I am meeting a friend that I have not seen for a while tomorrow and I am getting quite anxious about it!  Silly I know, but I wish I had not organised it. I worry about what to talk about and how it will go.

I am quite happy to spend time on my own and wondered whether there was something wrong with me, I like to please myself about a lot of things these days. I find it quite exhausting to make continual conversation. My husband dislikes this in me as he says I am getting miserable.
For instance he plays drums in a band occasionally and I have recently got Tinnitus so refuse to sit in front of the speakers as it hurts. He is not happy at all   

Rebecca

[groundhog]

Yes Rebecca it is difficult when our OH are very social.  My husband is ex military and very sociable.  We used to do the big BBQs etc but I just can't do it now - get so stressed and exhausted.  Every weekend is a trial in the summer as he always wants to be doing something.  I always feel I'm not enough for him made worse by the fact as it's always me who says I don't want to go.
We have hosted Christmas for years and I hate it. 
Oh dear moan moan moan.
Time for bed.
Night all