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CLKD

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Driving - annoying habits
« on: August 02, 2014, 05:11:13 PM »

DH has bad habits whilst driving.  He whizzes up to junctions/round-abouts then slams on the brakes, like he suddenly remembers there might be vehicles approaching that have priority.  This has been a problem for many years and occasionally I need to remind him.  He always turns defensive however tactful/not I approach the reason for my worries.  On Wed he drove across another vehicle - who had priority from the R on a round-about; he got defensive when I gasped and he always tells me that there is plenty of time.   :'(

He also fails to indicate until he reaches the junction.  In recent weeks he's 'forgotten' to indicate at all but moans when other drivers do the same.  Today he indicated left, immediately cancelled the indicator then turned into the parking space anyway; whereas I thought he had changed his mind so I was preparing to move forwards.  WORDS were said  :-\

He doesn't appreciate that there may be drivers/pedistrians/cyclists behind that require to know his driving plans!

He also weaves: there are badly maintained roads locally and he tries to avoid the pot-holes but I turn green.  He weaves without warning …………. I was so angry this morning that I have been tidying paper work that has lain around for 6/7 months …….. I couldn't be in the same room and thank goodness, he's gone out this evening.

If he ever does listen about my concerns over his driving he 'improves' for about 10 days  :'(
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kiltgirl

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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #1 on: August 02, 2014, 05:24:21 PM »

 :hug:

oh no that sounds so stressful...sometimes i'm glad i'm single.

Has anyone else been in the car with him and noticed...would they have a word? I hate being driven when I don't feel safe.

He might get a caution for bad driving, maybe it will sort him out!

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CLKD

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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #2 on: August 02, 2014, 05:34:53 PM »

About 10 years ago I offered to buy him an Advanced Driving Course for his birthday.  My way of getting someone else to look at his driving without my saying he needed assessment.  But he refused.  Even knowing that he would get cheaper insurance if he went on the Course  :-\ ……… <sigh>.

I wanted to let rip this morning I was so upset.  However I approach the issue he gets defensive. 
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« Reply #3 on: August 02, 2014, 05:48:48 PM »

It's difficult CLKD  - Has he had many biffs in the car?

OH seems to have some the same habits as your DH.
He hasn't had any biffs, except one a few months ago in a car park, and that really was not his fault, somebody reversed into him as we drove past.
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Taz2

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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2014, 06:05:29 PM »

I seem to remember you posting about this a couple of years back CLKD. If I criticised my husband's driving I would get short shrift and if he criticised mine, well, he would be walking in future!!

Seriously, can't you do more of the driving instead?

Taz x  :)
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CLKD

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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #5 on: August 02, 2014, 06:11:09 PM »

It wouldn't solve the problem though would it!  I thought I had posted previously but couldn't find the thread  :-\ and why shouldn't he take advice?  Why B defensive  :beat:
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« Reply #6 on: August 02, 2014, 06:14:48 PM »

My hubby did advanced driving & police driving, but still does things which annoy me. He says I'm way too careful. We all have our faults in driving. However, I cannot cope with driving long distances these days, hubby is still much better than me, always has been.
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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #7 on: August 02, 2014, 06:16:33 PM »

It's his defensive attitude that upsets me the most.

Also, there's been a stink as we walk into the house and for months he's been blaming my live meal worm pot, which does get whiffy if I keep them too long.  Today however he found a bag of onions which were yukky - which he has now removed along with the stink.  Am still waiting for an apology!
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« Reply #8 on: August 02, 2014, 06:17:59 PM »

You may have a long wait CLKD.
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CLKD

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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #9 on: August 02, 2014, 06:18:54 PM »

 ::)  …… not if I put my foot down with a firm hand  ;) ……….
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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #10 on: August 02, 2014, 06:36:18 PM »

Mmm! I avoid driving my husband if possible. He finds it very hard not to signal to me to move out round a vehicle a fraction of a second before I do. I have been known to stop, and say, ' Right you drive!' The trouble is, he is an excellent driver, with the certificate to prove it. He has  a Grade 1 advanced police driving qualification. I'm afraid I get very sensitive. It's a husband/wife thing. He was all for teaching me advanced driving techniques before I had even passed my driving test years ago. My driving instructor had to have a chat with him that I needed to learn the basics first.
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« Reply #11 on: August 02, 2014, 06:41:02 PM »

If he criticised you CLKD would you not become a bit defensive. My hubby thinks he is a race at all times. Do I say anything....ummm nope as he drives me wherever I want to go.
You really have sounded in the past as if he is really good. He has supported you through all sorts. He cooks for you, helps you clean....there has been so much that you have mentioned over the years.
So he is not the best driver in the world. As long as you get from A to B and back again.
If I criticised my hubbies driving I would end up walking.
Unless you are prepared to do a lot more driving I would  :-X if I were you.


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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #12 on: August 02, 2014, 07:22:03 PM »

Mine drives far too close to the car in front and I find myself saying (to myself of course) one thousand and one one thousand and two as the car in front goes past a tree or a lampost just to see how close we really are. He never keeps two chevrons apart either when they are painted on the road. It's like he is invincible!

On the other hand he never criticises my driving although I'm sure I have bad habits too and he always bigs me up if we are out and the conversation turns to woman drivers.

Taz x
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« Reply #13 on: August 02, 2014, 07:59:43 PM »

My dear hubby takes the racing line (so I'm told) around roundabouts. He accelerates going into corners and is the most impatient man on the planet when he is in a car. Relaxing he is not  ;D
I'm used to it.


We are still here to tell the tale.


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CLKD

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Re: Driving - annoying habits
« Reply #14 on: August 03, 2014, 09:42:14 AM »

For how long though  :-\.  How would he feel if he had a bump or worse  :'(

It's bad habits.  When I do occasoinally drive he will tell me if I'm too close to ......... which I don't mind as it makes me more spatially aware.  So far DH hasn't hit anything ......... not since 1983 anyway.
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