Amelia60 - you poor thing - I wouldn't describe chronic kidney disease as "minor" - that is really tough.
Ok, so, you need help in coping with your meno symptoms.

I am probably not the right person to advice on this as I'm afraid I've tried virtually everything and, apart from HRT, nothing worked for me. That is not to say that others have not found relief using alternative methods and I'm not suffering too badly with meno symptoms at the moment without HRt because at the moment I have the time to look after myself e.g. eat well, take lots of walks and get enough sleep etc.
As I mentioned before, diet, exercise and a few good basic supplements like the omega oils are very important - in other words good lifestyle choices. I know a few friends tried acupuncture and found it very helpful, so maybe try that. I think you may have to be careful about some of the herbal remedies because of your kidney problems so I would recommend advice from a reputable therapist/doctor.
Hopefully others will be along soon with some help and advice. DG x