Thanks for your replies. Meeka, I'm familiar with all the non dairy sources of calcium. My daily intake is well above the recommended daily intake according to MyFitnessPal but this has not protected my bones at all. I don't have my results of my recent DEXA scan. My previous scan showed that I was only one decimal point away from the diagnostic threshold for osteoporosis. My vitamin D levels have been measured twice since then, both times the tests were taken during winter, and both times my vitamin D levels were optimal. I don't have my most recent DEXA scan results but from I could see on the screen afterwards the numbers do not look good at all. Haemochromatosis is another complication. 66% of people diagnosed with haemochromatosis have osteopenia or osteoporosis according to the research, which isn't good.
Hurdity, thanks very much for your welcome. You seem to help a lot of people on this forum with your wide knowledge of all things menopause. As for ME/CFS I've had this condition since I was in my 20s. When my consultant asked me about symptoms like 'fatigue' I had to say that I have ME and because of that I don't live a 'normal' life like most women of my age, so I don't have any prior 'normal' to compare with. Fortunately he was ME aware and was understanding of its severity too. He said that HRT can't help with pre existing symptoms, so if my sleep was disordered before the peri/menopause for example, taking progesterone probably won't improve it.
Many conditions can have symptoms that can overlap with ME which makes it difficult for someone to recognise something else is going on besides ME. They will just feel "worse". Typically, treating the other condition is just that. The ME symptoms don't necessarily improve, but the person feels less "worse" when the other condition is treated or improves naturally. Of course I live in hope that HRT will improve my overall quality of life but I also know that realistically speaking it's probably not going to have all much impact on my ME symptoms.