Hi Lynne
I have to use the 10mcg Vagifem on *alternate* days, plus a dab of Ovestin cream on the outside area, otherwise symptoms get much worse, this is as recommended by the meno clinic. This seems to give a consistent dose to the tissues. The absorption period is between 6 and 24 hours. When I stopped systemic HRT (twice, for 3 months each time but carried on with Vagifem) the bladder problems/VA got worse - so in my case I know that I need the Vagifem *and* systemic HRT to find relief. It's not perfect by any means but I'd be much worse without it. On non Vagifem days, I often use Carlson Vitamin E pessaries (ebay) - these are v.different from just Vitamin E capsules, I find them to be very effective.
As you know, we're all different when it comes to HRT and it's all trial and error, what works for one won't work for another etc etc. I'm an ultra low dose estrogen, three-quarters of 25 Estraderm patch twice weekly - and Cyclogest 400 progesterone pessaries (vag or rectal) every 7 weeks for 10 days. (I'm progesterone intolerant, that's why the meno clinic devised this regime.) I don't get a withdrawal bleed on this. But I am now, at 51, 6 years post meno.
I've found patches to be better than gel - and I didn't get on with tablets at all. I still get migraines but they were much worse on gel/tablets and pre all HRT.
Quite a few on here use patch (say 50 strength Estrodot) and 200 Utrogestan x 10 on a monthly basis, some have a longer cycle and use Utrogestan every other month. Maybe that could be a starting point for you - taking the Utro oral rather than vag re: cystitis.
Happy experimenting, hope you find the way forward, it really is a case of seeing how it goes and tweaking it over time.
Night_Owl
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