Hi Tigerlily 1 - just a few more thoughts here, as someone who experienced VA and cystitis related pain / infections since 2014, when I needed to be hospitalised on several occasions. For myself, significant discomfort associated with UT and VA has mostly subsided with more pain-free months than painful flare episodes, which are now fairly short lived (usually 2-3 weeks max) and treatable. I haven't experienced any symptoms for quite a few months now. At the first sign of a flare, I up the topical cream/ gel regime; drink plenty of water and take dmannose to help stall cystitis/ urethral type symptoms.
I haven't had a hysterectomy, so will only comment on my own situation. However, would further discussion with your medical team might open up the possibility for safe additional treatment with a systematic form HRT to help alleviate symptoms, even post 60 ?
I'm also using vagifem and ovestin cream ( the latter to fix fragile scarred tissue lower down there). High doses initially, which took at least six-eight months to tolerate and find some easing of symptoms. In my ease VA was severe and it was a long road to more or less full recovery. I was told by my gynae and urologist that the two conditions were linked and topical oestrogen would represented a lifelong commitment to maintain a relatively pain free existence. Occasionally, as has been mentioned elsewhere on this thread, I up the dose of both if I feel UT twinges, vaginal pain / lack of moisture.
At the time of acute recovery, I managed to reduce nerve pain in both areas ( in particular, urethral ) by being prescribed amyltriptiline ( very low dose ) which helped for the short term and aided sleep. I also took moderate painkillers such as cocodomol when needed in the short term, and neurofen to treat short flares in the long term. My gynae recommended internally applying live yoghurt- soothing - and good moisturisers inbetween topical applications. I also find Yes effective, but there are plenty of brands to choose from.
Sorry you didn't have much help and advice from docs during the early stages - it also happened to me. Something needs to be addressed here - isn't preventative medicine more cost effective for society and shows that we offer older women and any treatable health-related conditions the experience the respect and time they deserve ?