I can certainly relate. You are describing exactly where I've been the past 6 months. I cried, I felt sorry for myself, I was angry with myself for crying and feeling sorry for myself. I desperately tried to make heads or tails of what was wrong with me, because whatever was going on just wasn't me! And it seemed to come suddenly from nowhere. I was fine one day, then I felt I couldn't be bothered with anything anymore in my daily life, then could hardly get out of bed, and I felt like I was becoming another child for my husband to care for. He was having to do everything, working, caring for the children, and caring for me. I was useless. My friends and family kept saying I needed to go out, and deep down I wanted to, because I certainly didn't want to feel like I was feeling, but I couldn't do anything. I cried about life passing by while I sat unable to participate. I thought I'd never cook a meal again. I still haven't started driving again, but I will. I dragged myself up for my husband to take me to the doctor, and told the doctor I'd lost my mind. He checked me over and very kindly said "You're not crazy. Something's off." It hasn't been an instant fix. How I wish he had a magic wand to wave and make me better! It's been weeks into months of try this, still not right, adjust that, now try this. And I'm still not back to myself. But my head is above water now! I can see that things are improving. I still have days where I'm paralyzed by an awful feeling, and on those days, in the moment, I'm right back to feeling it will never get better. But it IS getting better! And I think you will too!
I hesitate to advise anything on your meds, as we're all different and I haven't found my perfect balance yet. I will say that any of our endocrine hormones can wreak havoc on our minds. You don't say much about your physical state. What stage of menopause are you in? Have you had any hormone levels checked (reproductive, thyroid, blood sugars, cortisols)?
Feel free to vent and spill it all on here. I know I have and these ladies have been an enormous help in making sense of it all.