Hi
sorry for the initial question but how long did you wait into peri or meno before going on HRT options?
The AD's will supress your libido.
There might have been a bit of a boost as you initially say but the AD's would flatten that out.
Only solution would be to go the route your specialist is asking you to and do without them.
This might be a long road as most AD's (no matter what people say) are difficult to come off of.
You might need to taper them down over a short or longer period of time (6 weeks +).
In terms of the BHRT, not sure on what your on exactly but it might just not be hitting the spot.
For example some people dont hit it off with patches and their absorption might not be great enough.
Others don't follow the exacting rules on gels, which will also no be great for you.
Tablet route is often one of the easiest to get right and stabilize things with. Once your there then you can introduce other things to help you along or tweak what your doing.
Hope you get better soon. But please don't just stop your AD's or BHRT, think carefully first and do things slowly slowly