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[MinnieMoocher]

I'm not one to complain but I miss the person I once was before all...of...this! 

I was a size 8 up until my 51st birthday.
I was outgoing and fun and did martial arts and pole class 
I laughed and was pretty positive about life.
I was healthy, fit and had a six pack.
The only meds I took was an occasional pain killer
I had a vitality about life.

Now I'm overweight, in therapy,  with hypertension, migraines (which now mean I have a hidden disability), palpitations, anxiety, piles and bouts of melancholy.  All because of perimenopause.

Life just seems like a daily grind of survival. 

I'm so tired of the ongoing war my body is having with me...

[CLKD]

 

Firstly with regards clothing sizes, in recent years companies have put different measurements on womens' stuff to make us think that we are 'the same size'  instead of embracing that humans are getting larger.

It's The Change - does what it says on the tin  .  How is your diet overall?  In the last 4-5 years I have had to alter mine completely cutting out shop bought cakes, pastries, scones - due to dreadful bloating by mid-afternoon due to the fats, sugars etc..  It has made a big difference to how I feel.

Is the hypertension being treated?  R U comfortable with your therapist? What is causing the migraines, these may B hormonally linked.

Anxiety can be relieved with appropriate medication.  Which should lift the melancholia.

[CrispyChick]

I hear you. So completely.

I have lost everything to this 'natural' process.

Just come on a long journey with my family - to see extended family as planned. I very nearly didn't come. Forced myself. Felt sick as a dog and rageful the whole journey.

#life is hard. You are not alone. X

[MinnieMoocher]

Firstly with regards clothing sizes, in recent years companies have put different measurements on womens' stuff to make us think that we are 'the same size'  instead of embracing that humans are getting larger.

It's The Change - does what it says on the tin  .  How is your diet overall?  In the last 4-5 years I have had to alter mine completely cutting out shop bought cakes, pastries, scones - due to dreadful bloating by mid-afternoon due to the fats, sugars etc..  It has made a big difference to how I feel.

Is the hypertension being treated?  R U comfortable with your therapist? What is causing the migraines, these may B hormonally linked.

Anxiety can be relieved with appropriate medication.  Which should lift the melancholia.

Thank you for your kind words.    On the whole my diet is pretty decent but does need improving.  So I'm changing my eating towards a more 'anti inflammatory' way.  I was pretty much there but my eating does need tweaking. 

My therapist is fantastic. She's been really supportive especially when I going through all the stuff with my hypertension (I was hospitalised) and the Migraines ( The brain scans).  To be honest she's been more empathetic and supportive than some of the people in my life, who don't honestly understand what I'm going through.

My hypertension is being treated thankfully.  After 3 years I've managed to convince my dr to reduce my medication and I got NHS health prescription which has meant I have free off peak gym membership which is really helping my mental health.

[MinnieMoocher]

I hear you. So completely.

I have lost everything to this 'natural' process.

Just come on a long journey with my family - to see extended family as planned. I very nearly didn't come. Forced myself. Felt sick as a dog and rageful the whole journey.

#life is hard. You are not alone. X

*big hug*

The only thing that's getting me through this is I'm nearly 4 years through this and hopefully on the way to the other side. 

[CLKD]

When did U last have thyroid function blood tests?

A dietician may well be able to help with your on-going diet tweaks. 

[MinnieMoocher]

When did U last have thyroid function blood tests?

A dietician may well be able to help with your on-going diet tweaks.

I had full blood done about 5 months ago.  They were all normal.

Does anyone have any recommendations for a dietician?

[bombsh3ll]

If all these issues are menopausal, are you treating them?

Whilst there's no universe in which I would entertain untreated menopause, I can relate to a lot of your experience as I became severely disabled due to a brain injury at the age of 34.

A concept that helped me was to stop desperately trying to get my old life back and start building a new one.

I also had to switch to deriving my self esteem from shallow and transient things such as thinness, athletic ability and career success, which anyone only has by God's grace, to attributes that are more enduring and come from within.

I know what it is like to have thin, pretty, able-bodied privilege and then have it abruptly stripped away, and it it is really hard, it stinks.

But to be really honest I actually like the person I have had to become a lot more than the version of me who had only ever known a life of ease and comfort.

Like a phoenix rising from the fire, I hope you eventually get to that place as well, although it doesn't mean you ever stop striving for improvement.