U R not a burden, now is the time to delegate those extra chores that are expected. Apparently!
How R U using the 'valium'? Which dose? I took 5mg the night B4 an event that I was unable to get out of i.e. visiting family 2 hours drive away. My MinL hated that I fell asleep mid afternoon

and I knew that I could take another 5mg the next day but it was never required.
The gut is the 2nd brain. IBS is usually a cover all when the GP doesn't know what causation might be. Personally: 10 mins prior to a bleed I would have to dash to the loo or else, even when a period wasn't due. That would precede 3 days of a period.
Occasionally I now have slow transit, my bowel feels like it needs to evacuate but nowt happens. Often for hours. In the last 5 years I've had to alter my diet from shop produced cakes/crossaints/scones, getting rid of hidden sugars and fats. Made a huge difference to any bloating. I'm a once a day Girl, usually.
Drinking freshly squeezed apple juice sometimes causes a 'rush' to the bathroom

, it's the bits of peel I think that don't get crushed completely. At least I know what is causing it.
Nausea is my anxiety trigger. Often 4 no particular reason. Hence the Valium. My GP has also prescribed Propranolol to ease sudden anxiety surges.
Stress can cause hormonal upset, as can a surge of oestrogen from the ovaries ..........