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[debbyx]

Hi Ladies.

Just to share

You have probably read on my previous post that just recently I have been too  scared to have a bath and just been having showers.  Today my anxiety was a bit better so I was determined I was going to have a bath.    I opened the window wide and left the door open as I knew my husband was down stairs if I panicked and I actually managed to have a nice warm bubble bath.   I think I got too confident and decided to put a colour on my hair as the grey roots have been coming through !!! and I have been covering them up with  the colour dry shampoo.   Any way I got the colour on and read it had to stay on for 30 minutes,   That’s when I started to panic and only managed to keep it on for 15 mins my legs were shaking and heart pounding and I just had to get it off.  It’s now  been blow dried and straightened. And it looks okay it has covered my grey bits  which is good. but I am still so wobbly,   I should be proud of myself for managing it but I am just angry that doing something so simple is such a struggle.  Will I ever be back to how I was .before menopause. 

[CLKD]

Get rid of any anger, it burns off energy!  Little steps.  I can't remember how long after taking medication that I was able to relax in a bath but now I quit whilst ahead!  So rather than putting the colour on your hair: which looks OK? : next time enjoy the bath, telling yourself that the colouring can wait?

Don't beat yourself up!!  U can also continue on this thread ....... otherwise I gets lost I does 

[Old Frumpy]

You have really taken a step forward....good on you, small achievement maybe but you really have done it!!!.

Just hold on to that......having been there I can honestly say "well done" and I understand!!

The worst thing for me was people saying you should do this or that etc. 

[CLKD]

"you ought to" or "I wouldn't do that if I were you" and didn't I get a clip round the ear when I retorted "But you aren't me!"

This is about you.  Little steps. 

[Northerngirl]

Debbyx,  well done to you....honestly you did amazing....baby steps like others have said. Be very proud 👏

[debbyx]

So I have had a really good few days and managed a bath every night no real anxiety or panic feeling either it was such a nice feeling but then this morning I got up and had a pain in my left boob and straight away in my head because it was the left hand side I was having a heart attack and immediately started panicking,
the pain was gone with in half an hour but I have been anxious and Panicky all day and guess what just went to have a bath and I just can’t!   Why does this happen !!

I just can’t deal this any more it is really getting me down.

[Northerngirl]

It's early days Debbyx,  be kind to yourself and focus on the positive days you've had this week. Good luck with everything 

[CLKD]

Because it does.  Anxiety is self feeding so when we try to face an issue, it may/not recur.

I find that set backs are worse than than the initial issues!

[debbyx]

Hi Ladies. 

Please help me make sense of things. As you know I have been struggling I just can’t do this any more. I have just filled out an E consult online to speak to the doctor because everything is just getting 10 times worse I either need to be on antidepressants or HRT or both, but I just cannot function. I lay in bed at night thinking I wish I could just die in my sleep and I wouldn’t have to go through this crap life anymore and then when I wake up in the morning I just start crying and I can’t do another day and another week like this I hate my husband right now because rather than helping me he says he can’t cope with the way I am and he just stays out of the house as long as possible I just can’t do   Simple day-to-day tasks any more and I struggled with Sunday lunch yesterday I struggle with the housework  my legs are like jelly I fell weak and faint then I panic more I go round and round in circles. I used to enjoy the Sunday afternoons just watching a film on the sofa with a blanket. I just can’t sit long enough to do that anymore I just don’t know where to go from here my two best friends have just sailed through menopause and just don’t understand how I am struggling. My sister is a year younger than me and in post menopause too but she’s coping  why is this happening to me. but I know when I come on this forum other ladies have been through the same thing .
I want to give up and stay in bed but I know I can’t do that.    Please help.

[CLKD]

Morning.  How far do U live from the Surgery, I would get there, tell the Staff how ill I feel and sit until a GP can see me. 

Your husband of course should be arranging an appt., however no one: men nor women: understand the physicality of hormone upheaval.  Try not to hate him as a person but hate what he does/not do.

[CLKD]

What did U decide to do?

[debbyx]

The earliest appointment is Friday so I will speak to the GP then and see what is best to do. 

Thank you for asking.

[CLKD]

Take a list of your worries with you so that nothing is 4gotten.

[Losingtheplot]

Hi Ladies. 

Please help me make sense of things. As you know I have been struggling I just can’t do this any more. I have just filled out an E consult online to speak to the doctor because everything is just getting 10 times worse I either need to be on antidepressants or HRT or both, but I just cannot function. I lay in bed at night thinking I wish I could just die in my sleep and I wouldn’t have to go through this crap life anymore and then when I wake up in the morning I just start crying and I can’t do another day and another week like this I hate my husband right now because rather than helping me he says he can’t cope with the way I am and he just stays out of the house as long as possible I just can’t do   Simple day-to-day tasks any more and I struggled with Sunday lunch yesterday I struggle with the housework  my legs are like jelly I fell weak and faint then I panic more I go round and round in circles. I used to enjoy the Sunday afternoons just watching a film on the sofa with a blanket. I just can’t sit long enough to do that anymore I just don’t know where to go from here my two best friends have just sailed through menopause and just don’t understand how I am struggling. My sister is a year younger than me and in post menopause too but she’s coping  why is this happening to me. but I know when I come on this forum other ladies have been through the same thing .
I want to give up and stay in bed but I know I can’t do that.    Please help.

Hi debbyx

I feel your pain as I have been going thru exactly the same as you are now!.

Started for me around end of Sept and gradually got worse until I couldn't cope with going to work due to the panic and dread and teariness!.

How did the doctors appointment go? Hopefully your doctor was helpful and offered you some HRT and or anti depressants?

Feel free to pm me if you wish as I say you are describing everything I have been feeling!

I am on Sandrena Gel 1mg sachet increased from 0.5mg for when symptoms returned and 1 x prog tablet this is on continous.

I have been in this awful place before years ago just over 2.5 years ago when I thought I was having some kind of breakdown the hot flushes confirmed to me it was peri/menopause.

Hence that start of HRT! After trying patches I went onto gel. Luckily the low dose gel was enough to control my symptoms along with taking Fluoxetine.

I hope your in a better place now.