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[Pipped]

I'm not sure how long I have been Perimenopausal. I started hrt about a month ago. But I feel so anxious at the the thought of my husband interacting with other women. I worry if he's nipped in the shop for a loaf of bread, I worry if he has to make a phone call to sort out the insurance.  I worry if he picks up his phone or watches TV. I dont think my marriage can survive much more of my nonsense.  Has anyone else experienced this bizarre mental torture? I'm really struggling to cope. I just keep hoping I will feel better once the hrt has had chance to work.

[CLKD]

Yep.  Hormones can cause all kinds of oddities!

   How old R U?  When was your last period?  Mine waxed and waned for several years - a few months of regular bleeds then it would disappear ......

Some find that keeping a mood/food/symptom diary of use to chart progress. 

Which symptom did U want to ease with replacement therapy? 

Men often don't understand what happens to us during these years so start the conversation: "Have U noticed any difference about me in the last 3-6 months because I'm concerned ... " mayB a starter. 

[Pipped]

I'm 48 and still have regular periods although my cycle is now around 26 days instead of 28. The anxiety is the main symptom I hope to sort out, and also to slow down my suddenly influx of wrinkles. He does understand it's a menopause thing bless him but we seem to argue every day now, caused by me. After decades of a very happy marriage. 

[CLKD]

The phrase 'stand well back and duck' ?  How were you pre-menstrually, issues that I could deal with until the few days B4 a bleed, would suddenly be the biggest problem in the World so I would flare with my temper!  DH could chart my cycles easier than I did ! 

Have that talk with him?  Get his view point, he may not notice as much as you think that U R raging ;-)

Anxiety can be eased by HRT which may take a while B4 U notice any differences.  There are anti-anxiety meds too which can also help alongside replacements. 

[Pollypolly]

Oh I think the op is in my mind. My partner makes me feel insecure so now I'm like a mad women checking all he does where he goes. He gives me no support so it's hard.

Pipped is your partner supportive have you told him this isn't nonsense sadly it's real life.

[CLKD]

Many men don't understand mood swings even when it's explained ...........

Pollypolly - which op?

[Sophya]

You’re dealing with a lot of fear right now and it feels very real when your hormones are all over the place. HRT can take time to settle, so what you’re feeling doesn’t mean anything is actually wrong in your marriage. Many people get intrusive worries during perimenopause, especially early on. Keep talking openly with your husband, keep track of how your symptoms change, and let your doctor know if the anxiety stays this intense. Small steps help you feel more grounded while the treatment has time to work.