I had my appointment this morning. The specialist, a pleasant woman who also gave a thumbs up to this very website by the way, talked me through my experiences to date- not good ones if you see my previous posts. I had an hour's consultation.
She recommended that after finishing the second loading dose (topical vaginal oestrogen pessaries) that I am currently on, I should have another two weeks of daily treatment. She explained to me that the longer I had been post menopausal, the more likely it was that I could need more time to 'load up' before even thinking of reducing the dose. In fact, she suggests that I drop off the 7x dosage gradually trying two weeks or so at a time with each reduction until I find the correct dosage for me. She said I could do this over 4-6 months in her opinion.
She is writing all this in a letter to my GP practice also explaining how miniscule the doses of oestrogen involved actually are (though you would think that GPs should know this as a very basic starting point.

and saying that I should be allowed to make my own decisions about what is an appropriate dose for me to be prescribed. The other issue that really cheered me was her assurance that if this didn't work, then there are other approaches which we can discuss, it made me feel less anxious that this now is all or nothing.
I know I am very lucky to have been able to afford this consultation and I feel bad for other ladies who maybe can't but I thought I would at least share the information about a much longer loading dose possibly creating more favourable conditions from which a tapered reduction can be tried.
Of course, I don't know where my GP will go with all of this, we shall see but I hope a strongly worded clear letter will help educate her. She has also written me a prescription that I can cash in if feet are being dragged over this.
I feel a faint glimmer of optimism at last.