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[CLKD]

Do U have a Plan now?

[sheila99]

'Abnormal?' Don't they realise how it makes us feel saying things like that? Well me anyway. I'm not sure about your reaction. It's not like we can do anything about having a period!

Abnormal? I prefer Unique and I quite like it, who wants to be like everyone else? I've had the benefit of my oestrogen for several years longer than others and it gave me the ability to have a child the wrong side of 40. And I get to tell doctors that they really should educate themselves before spouting sh*t    (though I may be slightly more diplomatic in the way I phrase it).

[Clovie]

'Abnormal?' Don't they realise how it makes us feel saying things like that? Well me anyway. I'm not sure about your reaction. It's not like we can do anything about having a period!

Abnormal? I prefer Unique and I quite like it, who wants to be like everyone else? I've had the benefit of my oestrogen for several years longer than others and it gave me the ability to have a child the wrong side of 40. And I get to tell doctors that they really should educate themselves before spouting sh*t    (though I may be slightly more diplomatic in the way I phrase it).

I love this.
See, I'd love to celebrate my body too, embrace the fact that it is doing its thing, just ticking along. It has served me well thus far.
By the way I had my last baby at 39, after trying for the ONE and only month, so maybe that goes someway to confirming in a way that I have been fertile for longer than average? I don't know.
But - the docs have made me feel shame and disgust and fear about my body. I think they really do need to rethink how they address women in my position, be kinder at least.
I've finally written a letter of complaint regarding it all, there's more to it than I have said, wrong incomplete notes taken down, and fact that my utrogestan and hence all my HRT was cut off cold a couple of years back which had a long standing effect on my mental health because of it. A terrible experience at a NHS menopause clinic following that where a Dr actually tried to grab my personal notes out of my hand. 
I've explained how it makes me feel in the letter. A friend even said I was suffering a kind of trauma because of all this. I didn't realise but maybe she is right and she works in that field.
I expect them to reply backing each other up and I will remain a woman who thinks she is having periods. Or maybe I am just a crazy woman always complaining? 
We will see.

[CLKD]

We shouldn't ever B made to doubt ourselves, most patients know their bodies the best.  [In the same way that Mothers with sick babies should be listened to]!

Clovie: if U know your body and are able to explain what is happening etc., the GP should listen.  Post traumatic stress disorder may well be at the back of your feelings too.  Not being listened to or believed is awful!  Is there a Nurse Practitioner at the Surgery who may have a better bed-side manner!

[Clovie]

We shouldn't ever B made to doubt ourselves, most patients know their bodies the best.  [In the same way that Mothers with sick babies should be listened to]!

Clovie: if U know your body and are able to explain what is happening etc., the GP should listen.  Post traumatic stress disorder may well be at the back of your feelings too.  Not being listened to or believed is awful!  Is there a Nurse Practitioner at the Surgery who may have a better bed-side manner!

Aw thank you CKLD, that was a really nice post. 
unfortunately the NP was the one who wrote down the wrong info for the doctor. Its all a mess. I no longer have faith in anyone I can think of at that surgery

[CLKD]

It's awful!  When we feel vulnerable we are less likely to be able to advocate for ourselves  .

Let us know how the letter is received.

[sheila99]

'Abnormal?' Don't they realise how it makes us feel saying things like that? Well me anyway. I'm not sure about your reaction. It's not like we can do anything about having a period!

Abnormal? I prefer Unique and I quite like it, who wants to be like everyone else? I've had the benefit of my oestrogen for several years longer than others and it gave me the ability to have a child the wrong side of 40. And I get to tell doctors that they really should educate themselves before spouting sh*t    (though I may be slightly more diplomatic in the way I phrase it).

I love this.
See, I'd love to celebrate my body too, embrace the fact that it is doing its thing, just ticking along. It has served me well thus far.
By the way I had my last baby at 39, after trying for the ONE and only month, so maybe that goes someway to confirming in a way that I have been fertile for longer than average? I don't know.
But - the docs have made me feel shame and disgust and fear about my body. I think they really do need to rethink how they address women in my position, be kinder at least.
I've finally written a letter of complaint regarding it all, there's more to it than I have said, wrong incomplete notes taken down, and fact that my utrogestan and hence all my HRT was cut off cold a couple of years back which had a long standing effect on my mental health because of it. A terrible experience at a NHS menopause clinic following that where a Dr actually tried to grab my personal notes out of my hand. 
I've explained how it makes me feel in the letter. A friend even said I was suffering a kind of trauma because of all this. I didn't realise but maybe she is right and she works in that field.
I expect them to reply backing each other up and I will remain a woman who thinks she is having periods. Or maybe I am just a crazy woman always complaining? 
We will see.

Your body is amazing, don't let anyone make you think otherwise. Menopause is a seriously damaging design flaw and the longer you put it off the better, it's something that should be celebrated not denigrated.