Yes, it is definitely a strange thing, there is a similar anti pain medication during child birth going on here. I do think that also is slowly changing with more women choosing to go to the hospital for child birth (home birth is still very popular, and with our densely populated country, there is always a hospital nearby, so it is relatively safe).
I’m pretty open too about using hrt and my struggles to find a good fit. I also need to keep functioning, because I have 2 children with disabilities, so can’t just curl up and do nothing. It seems to make trying off license things more acceptable somehow, my GP wrote it in the referral letter, that not sleeping because of low estrogen was not an option because of my family (you’d think not sleeping is always a reason to get treatment ;-)), I don’t think she actually thinks that way, but I did mention I was having trouble taking care of my children and having to drive a car with my lack of sleep, so that is probably why she mentioned it. I guess the Dutch culture of “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is still inside me too, like I need to have an excuse to take hrt.
So, I also don’t think you’ll have an easy time with persuading your neighbour. Even pro-hrt me that is open with friends, feels the need to have excuses to even use hrt and I find myself thinking “why would you start hrt in early peri, if you hardly have symptoms” when I read other stories and then realize it’s that ingrained Dutch mentality seeping through.